I have worked my butt of for this woman and she wants to take my kids and all she has to say to me is that she is sorry she hurt me. I dont understand how a woman could do this and want to move herself and my kids to another state and ask for me to fill the bill. Do you women understand where she is comming from because i sure dont. I feel let the reson shes leaving pay for it. I.E another man, family or whatever i dont really care about that. I am tryin to do this without fighting but i can not just lie there and help her destroy me. Money is no issue to me but its the fact that she slaps me in the face with this and then askes for me to pay for everything. I already had given her everything through our marriage and everything through our separation she has it all..... What should i do??? should i bury her in court or kiss her A**. all i see from that is getting a mouth full of shi*????
2006-10-18 00:21:16 · 10 answers · asked by Joe B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry to hear your situation, You married a gold digger she knows that the court system is sympathetic to her as a woman and she is attempting to take full advantage. Your divorce lawyer should be able to help you and hopefully there is some hard evidence of her indescretions available. She also knows you dont want a long drawn out court case all that will do is hurt the children even more than they have been hurt. Mediation is your best chance
2006-10-18 00:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is Personal and Subjective!
Pain endured by Both parties can manifest all kinds of Horrific Actions & Decisions-with Serious long-term Effects & Consequences!!
Men NEED to keep close-contact with their children,but the Law can sometimes upset this Balance!
It would Destroy Me if I couldn't see my Kids!-So I can Partially understand where you're coming from!
If you can avoid Legal intervention-then all the better!(Those Pirates make a Fourtune off US!!).
Family counselling (if you can get your Wife to attend) is the best mediation to resolve this before it gets complicated in Court!
If You Can Afford it-Then Take her through the Courts and Fight For what YOU WANT!! And the RIGHT to See Your Children!
Hope you can resolve this Peacefully!
2006-10-18 00:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is so wrong for a woman to get every thing from a divorce. when I sepatate from my husband I will not ask him to pay for it. we will share our children and pay for our own household needs. Thats the way it should be. She is selfish and cruel to expect you to do everything for her after she leaves you. And (giving you the benifit of a doubt) you being a good father should never be kept from the kids no matter if theres a nother man or not. courts are so screwed up. They just don't get it! I know this really didn't help, just hang in there, God will see you through.
2006-10-18 00:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by shauna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very astute, CCL. i've got questioned a similar subject, presently. Now you have inspired me to think of roughly it... :-) The Buddha's likened the 5 aggregates (materiality, the physique, & it is sensory / psychological derivatives: "suffering"), to a maximum cancers. maybe some forms of beside the point movements could reason those issues, or perhaps actual ailment to proliferate? i'm no longer acceptable, yet i think of that Buddhism, Taoism, and virtually any actual thinking college of thought could agree that as long as each and each persons persons, each and each cellular, does the main appropriate subject / stable: the 'device' works. We shouldn't pass looking fault with others, yet maximum appropriate & inspire, spur ourselves on - to do / be stable / actual / left... :-)
2016-10-19 22:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is taking advantage of you and your good heartedness. Please stop this! I mean, I don't want to see you drag the kids thru the muck but you need to start fighting back! She will take advantage of you - if you let her! I hate to say this but the courts are not on your side so you must get ready for the battle. I wish you luck!
2006-10-18 00:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some cahonies dude-----have it written in your decree that your wife CAN not take YOUR children out of state-------Very simple.
You're trying to make this easy----and let me tell you DIVORCE when children are involved is never easy-----
Where do these children want to live...have you ever asked them? Maybe they would be better off with you-----Stability etc. Sounds like wifey poo is going thru a mid-lifer ....and needs to go and find herself!
2006-10-18 00:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney and have him work out an amicable settlement, custody agreement and divorce. You can stipulate joint custody if you so desire and visitation if you believe the children should be with the other parent. What she does with the settlement is then her decision.
2006-10-18 00:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE, if money isn't an issue, then fight for your kids----even if you have a helluva time finding a way to take care of them......otherwise she will screw you for as long as the law allowes..........good luck...think about the kids first!
2006-10-18 00:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by 6ft5inallman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being divorced myself I can understand your pain. This question is so hurt and angry - I am feeling your pain. You will be ok one day.
2006-10-18 00:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the dam divorce and then fight like hell for your kids
2006-10-18 00:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋