Dont mix the 2.Cant you love 1 person and also have sex with many many others.Why dont women understand this?
2006-10-18 00:15:45 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes - quite different.
Love is dangerous, addictive and will mess with your head. As will any strong emotion.
Sex can be just a physical activity. Unfortunately it very often leads to lust (strong emotion), love (strong emotion), a crush (strong emotion) and all sorts of other things which will mess you about. There are also all the issues about disease transmission and pregnancy, issues which are ignored at your peril. If you go mountain climbing and ignore the possibility you could end up disabled or dead, then you'd be considered a fool. The same applies with some of the obvious perils of casual sex.
Its a bit like the argument about soft drugs and hard drugs. Soft sex has a nasty habit of leading to hard relationships.
2006-10-18 00:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is because women are women and think like women. My second husband explained this to me. After he did it made sense. I know I always felt there were missing pieces that I didn't have answers to where men were concerned. I always thought that if a man was married and having sex with someone else that he was not in love with his wife anymore. Most women think that way and that is the lure for men to get a mistress while they are married. Women are emotional creatures and have to have a reason to have sex ,so they feel that men are thinking like they are, which of course is not true. When a woman cheats, most of the time it is because she is not happy at all in her marriage and she is reaching out to another man to be with long term. Men on the other hand are genetically inclined to cheat, which has to do with leaving their offspring and genetics behind. Religion is the reason that people fall victim to adultry. Just because a partner strays does not mean the marriage has to be over. I am one woman who understands.
2006-10-18 07:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman.
Let me give you a woman's perspective. Be careful you don't generalise, ok?
Love is emotional.
sex is physical.
Yes, these are two separate things.
Yes, they are separate for some men. For many women, they are not, they are intertwined. It is difficult for women to accept their man having sex with many others because they understand while it is separate for the man in question, it isn't separate for the other woman. So it is hard for them to accept the man being loved by other women. Sometimes the man may get to love the other woman.
In a relationship, a woman gets insecure if the man has sex with many others... infidelity in a physical way... perhaps infidelity in an emotional way?
Just my two cents for what it's worth.
One other thing... it's not called making love for nothing
2006-10-18 07:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by Balaboo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's irrelevant because the only place for sex is within marriage with your one partner and you can't go around committing adultery while claiming to love her. You don't understand this, and you say that others don't have understanding? Give me a break. And I'm a man (a REAL man) and not woman or a facsimile of a man.
Keebler's answer above is also not incorrect, for the most part. I don't know of any women who decide they don't want sex at all, and even if they do, it's NO EXCUSE for unfaithfulness, or for a so-called "man" to act like a baby who can't get his way.
2006-10-18 07:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes they are two different things however if u claim to love someone, u wouldn't feel compelled to have sex with another woman, let alone have the desire to. In a marriage, this becomes even more important as your vows says to "forsake all others".
While I have no problem understanding that sex and love are two different things, I don't get why u have such a hard time grasping the concept that if u truly love someone, u shouldn't even want to have sex with another.
2006-10-18 08:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is possible to separate the two. Personally, I don't see why anybody would want to. Why settle for something that isn't as good when you can have better? Sex without love is like decaffeinated coffee...it tastes like coffee...it looks like coffee..but it has as much effect on your body and mind as a drink of cold water. Why bother when you can have it all?
Most women would probably see it the same way.
it is also a fact that most women enjoy sex more when they do it with somebody who they trust- there is no comparison at all or subsitute for having sex with somebody who loves and respects you. Both men and women need to feel safe and relaxed in order to have a good sexual experience. You need trust of this and it is often quite lacking in casual sexual relationships. I think this need for somebody trusthworthy and need of security and safety is what often drives women to seek out love before sex.
If you think the way you do, (even though I disagree with your logic) then I see nothing wrong with it, but only if you are you honest with the people you are in relationships with and have sex with. Even the most casual of friendships requires respect and honesty in order to function. Be frank and honest to people and explain your position to them
Then they can either choose to be involved with you or not and consent to something clearly.,The problems come when you lie...or omit the truth and women end up feeling that you cared when really all you were interested in was some sex.
be honest, there is nothing wrong with what you are doing morally or otherwise as long as you approach the situation with respect for the people you choose to be involved with. Consent is the key- do not use people!
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2006-10-18 07:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by lady_sephie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree is two different things or sports like you say,,,love is love and sex is sex... you can have sex with someone you love or just like... but like you say they are two different sports all you have to do is stay in the same team...you and your mate are the team just because love and sex are two differents things doesnt mean you get to have sex with the one you "love" and everybody else.. dream on.. remember a little thing called HIV? yeah is like still killing people I would rather be with the one I love and still have good sex... you need to grow up.
2006-10-18 08:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree totally with you. Sex and love are two very different sports. I just can't have sex with someone I feel no connection to, it just won't work. When you are in love and are making love with the person you are in love with, there is nothing like it. With men, the old saying goes, a stiff dick has no conscience!
2006-10-18 07:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and sex are two different things however if you really loved someone you wouldnt want to have sex with other women. Even when you are married and madly in love some nights its sex and some nights its making love but it isnt adultry. If you want to love someone and have sex with other women....join a swingers club and let her do it too. I dont see any other way you could have a regular relationship.
2006-10-18 07:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by jaylynn_tx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing woman dont understand is that sex is how men show they love their spouse. When a woman decides after marriage she doesnt want sex it sends a signal to hubby saying get it somewhere else. This is the biggest reason for affairs and divorce
2006-10-18 07:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋