You're know this person for 5yrs get married. Of course you have bonded with family and friends. Everyone has accepted you into their lives. The relationship with your other half is unbreakable so you think. You and your spouse splits because he is cheating. My question is who should the family and friends side with? I'm not saying to disown the cheating party but should there be some kind of loyality to the other person this wasn't cheating? Not only did I lose a husband but I lost friends and a family that I'd grown to love.
2006-10-17 23:56:40 · 16 answers · asked by Tweetyboo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can really understand how you feel. You think that these persons have cheated on you as well as they have taken your spouse's side. that is only because they do not know what happened and had listen only to his side of the story.
Speak to them one by one and tell them your side of it. Explain to them how you feel that they betrayed you when they did not understand your problem, though you should never and ever ask them to side with you. They are his family and they will support him first and foremost.
2006-10-18 00:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately the family and most of the friends stay with the ex. And that is a shame because I did like most of my ex's family and friends and now when I run into them at the stores and stuff it is like they do not even know me . The only one that says anything to me anymore is the ex's mother and that is only in passing. Good Luck and God bless.
2006-10-18 00:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's hard for them to pick a side even though he is the one who cheated, and it's not right to ask them to pick one. They are probably upset with the whole situation as well, because you are part of their family. This happens and it is very sad because you do have such strong bonds with family and you may in the future, but they are going to side with him.
2006-10-18 00:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Families and friends do not tolerate cheating. If my side of my family finds out that I am cheating then they will hate me, not my wife. Of course, my wife would still be in good relationship with them.
2006-10-18 00:08:28 · answer #4 · answered by alandicho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i became in a courting that had to be a "secret", then confident that's a pink flag. that's been 7 years and he or she is apprehensive approximately hurting his thoughts??? What approximately your thoughts? i does no longer be sitting at abode on an identical time as my bf became out along with his ex and his family contributors. it rather is time for her to pass forward and supply up enjoying video games.
2016-10-02 10:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by schugmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from experience....don't bother trying to keep up a relationship with his family. its so not worth it. they KNOW he's a lying cheating rat but they will still obviously be loyal to him (just as your family will be to you regardless if you were right or wrong). AND... (from experience...) it just HURTS when he moves on and you then have to hear about it from his family and close friends!! What for? you've been hurt enough! and by staying in touch with them you are just going to hurt even more in the long run sweetie.
2006-10-18 00:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm struggling to understand my own friends as I'm in a similar situation. I was on the verge of being admitted to a Hospice when my husband committed adultery. He was spending big money on his mistress & refusing to support me.
Majority of our friends took his site - he is better connected, have money, he is a liyer & a cheater. There is no logic & no explanation. I'm devestated - all this after 18 years together.
Sending you love & blessings.
2006-10-18 00:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family will almost always stick with the blood relative. There really isn't a reason to have to pick sides, but it usually does happen.
Aloha
2006-10-18 00:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be hurt too. I guess they were only your friend when married. That says alot about their character, doesn't it? Time to put this all behind you and live life. Life isn't a dress rehearsal, it only goes around once. So live it up.
Lots of Luck,
O'hock
2006-10-18 00:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by orcahock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to be friends with your ex's family even though you are not friends with your ex. The family and friends will side with whomever they choose.
2006-10-18 00:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋