my dad been seeing other woman??? what do i do??

Question

i found out my dad been seeing other woman and couples.
also going to swingers clubs.
he has no idea i know this!!!!
i want to tell him i know but if i tell him ill go mad at him and probs hit him.
there a twist he has bad kidney which means he going on some sort of machine soon to help him.
i want to help him but after what he done i cant even look at him in face no more.
god know i love him but i hate him at sametime for what he has done.
do i tell my mum?
she got enough probs without this on her back.
shall i let it drop or what??????
he makes me sick!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Your mom probaly knows women know when something is going on and if not you would be hurting her by telling. I'm not saying don't say something however I strongly believe you need to think it through and allow yourself to deal with it before dropping the bomb.

Answer 2

I'd tell your dad you want to talk to him and then tell him what you know or suspect. He'll probably deny it all. Don't tell him your source. It doesn't have to be a long, detailed conversation but he'll know he's been found out. He may even get angry at you for suggesting such a thing. Don't hit him. Just walk away. Be confident in what you know. Hopefully what this will do is make him stop what he is doing. If he continues, I'd tell him you know he hasn't stopped and if he doesn't, you are going to your mother. If he is getting sick, who does he expect to take care of him!!! Your mother of course. She deserves better from him. I'd not tell your mother until your dad forces you to. Like you said, she has enough problems.

Answer 3

Stay out of it. I can understand how you feel, knowing what your father is doing but he wont stop until he feel like its time. Honestly, you would be wasting your time. Your mother probably already knows he is cheating and she will leave him alone when she is ready as well. If I were you, I would let him know how I feel being his child and fearing your family would break up, but I wouldnt tell my mother but I would let him know how it was affecting me. I hope this helped.

Answer 4

The best thing for you to do is to tell your mother. It's not going to be easy. You know how you feel so you can just imagine how your mother will feel but it is the right thing to do. Do you want your mother to become sick with something. You need to tell her.

Answer 5

You better just drop it, it doesn't involve you. You also may not have the full story here either.

The best thing to do is to stay out of your parents affairs, as you would want them to stay out of yours. Your parents are adults, they do not answer to you, and they do not owe you any sort of explaination.

Answer 6

well what is it that you want to do?? cause im broken family so i kinda understand the situation a bit....the question is do you think your dad really is seeing other woman as in you're sure he is?? if i were you ill investigate it a little longer.....maybe it was just a misunderstanding....if it was me ill talk to him about it....he might have a reason for doing this though.....

Answer 7

tell you mum. She could get a disease from him then really have problems.She has a right to know. You are just as guilty if you don't. how would you feel if you Mum got aids from him?

Answer 8

tEll y0ur mUm.. Y w0n't you helP your mum fix the prob. BesidEs you are Matured enough to know what is right from wrong.. rIght?? so g0 for it.. jUst bEcarefUl.. y0ur Dad mIght know about wHat you are telliNG to yOur mum.. 0r elsE.. yOu kNow What will hAppen.. =)

Answer 9

NO don't tell your mom it will only hurt her more. Your dad all ready does enough of that

Answer 10

Ask him about it, tell him your going to talk to your mom, inless it stops. or hey she may know already.