I have a friend who is getting a bit clingy....she rings and texts me all the time and its beginning to get on my nerves, when i don't text her back straight away she sulks and asks what i've been doing, as though i have no life of my own, i feel i have to answer to her, i've even been guilty of not answering the phone in fear of it being her...of course i don't want to upset her but what's the best way around this...
2006-10-17 23:26:48 · 7 answers · asked by Susie2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't think running away fom things is the answer. How long are you going to avoid her? And how long can you go without answering calls? And each time you do it, you get angrier at yourself for behaving in a manner you don't like and you'll start blaming her for the way you're behaving. It's just too much extra baggage that you don't need.
The longer you leave it, the worse it will get. Reopen the lines of communication. Take her out to a cafe and talk to her honestly. Be kind. Be gentle. Don't lose your temper. And whatever the outcome will be- I assume it will work as these things usually do -at least you'll walk away knowing you dealt with this well.
2006-10-17 23:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by freudianslipper 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U hav 2 help her thru wateva shez goin thru yes its very annoying but you may need her help one day...if u treasure ur friendship then dont leave her in the dark but try 2 explain it to her nicely that you have your own problems and if you dont....lie 2 her tell her ur studyn or workn but dnt tell her shes too clingy or ull break her heart coz she trusts u 2 b there 4 her and if u say that she might not trust you with her secrets and problems and it might sound lyk heaven rite now but it wont when she leaves you in the dark...best of luck
2006-10-18 06:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by aycee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Speak up, sweetie.......set personal boundaries and don' t be her personal doormat. Tell you that all of what you said above is too much and you have things to do and other friends, etc. and you would appreciate it if she did not text you and call you so much. Then, if she continues, don't answer. After awhile, like Pavlov's dog, she will stop when she gets no response. She may abandon you as a friend because she is extremely needy.......period.
2006-10-18 06:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
explain it to her nicely that you have your own problems and if you dont....lie 2 her tell her ur studyn or workn but dnt tell her shes too clingy or ull break her heart coz she trusts u 2 b there 4 her and if u say that she might not trust you with her secrets and problems and it might sound lyk heaven rite now but it wont when she leaves you in the dark Good Luck
bye
2006-10-18 06:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u have made the wrong sort of friend.she always bothers u.and she seems like a bit irritating too.
2006-10-18 07:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by cutey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her in alone about your probl or just give her a hint that u r getting annoyed by hr behaviour
2006-10-18 06:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by sweety 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to continue not answering her calls and messages ...slowly she should get the drift and stop pestering you.
2006-10-18 06:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Phantom of the Opera 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋