you had your first baby??if you could,would you do it differently??
2006-10-17 23:14:39 · 25 answers · asked by nicola 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
i mean,do you think you were too old,too young and did you have a baby with the right person??
2006-10-17 23:17:53 · update #1
I was 16 when I had my first son in 1965. It was really tough back then, but I took it all with a grain of salt. I have never regretted having him and keeping him. (God, I could write a book!) He's was joy, and still is. Of course I was too young, and unmarried, and foolishly I had another son by the same boy when I was 20.
Lovely boys, but their father was no good and we didn't stay together.
I have never regretted having my kids, but if it was today I would have second thoughts only because of the sad and dangerous state the world is in.
2006-10-18 02:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by Nana Susie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had my first baby at 17 but she was born premature and she died soon after birth my next baby i had at 20 by 23 i had 3 living children but it wasn't till i was 25 that i finally felt really ready in myself to be the mother i wanted to be. I dont think there is a right age to have a baby as it depends on your personal situation but baby are hard work and id advise anyone to think long and hard before making that comitment as its a life changing experiance
2006-10-18 07:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by redroseleigh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First at 20. Thought I was old enough at the time (planned pregnancy) and have no regrets about having her although no longer with her father. Daughter is now almost at the same age and the thought of her having a baby now is terrifying! Want her to explore life and the world before taking on the lifelong responsibility that goes with being a parent.
2006-10-18 06:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Young, 19. Yes I wish it had been planned with the perfect significant other but that was not the case. I didn't know squat about contraception and became pregnant immediately. To young, no $$, no education, unmarried..would have changed all that! At this point in my life, she is nearly 30 now and as wonderful as she is maybe it would be best to leave it as it is!!! I was blessed even through the "minor" setbacks.
2006-10-18 07:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was 19 when i fell pregnant 20 when i gave birth. i thought i'd lived my life done the clubbing and boozing thing and just wanted to settle down with my boyfriend and live happily ever after. How wrong was i !!!! He left me when the baby was 6 weeks old tried to kill me many a time and has had no contact with his child for almost 6 years. Im 26 now and though i dont for one second regret having my child i wish i had of waited till mr right or a better man came along. Im still clubbing and boozing now so that shows how wrong i was about life!!
2006-10-18 06:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by delaruedebbie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was 35 and no I would'nt change a thing. I'm glad I had a life before having a baby because now I appreciate things more I dont think I was mature enough to cope with being a mother when I was in my 20's.
2006-10-18 12:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by jlb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mummy was 20 Daddy was 22 - now baby is 26! Wouldn't do anything differently - it's better to have your babies early rather than late. Physically easier and you have more energy when younger - also the Mother is less likely to need any medical intervention.
2006-10-18 06:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by NORSE-MAN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 24 with my first and 26 with my second and would like it if they had a different father, but then they wouldn't be the children that they are now. Other than that I wouldn't change anything. I think I waited until a good age and time in my life.
2006-10-18 06:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by greenmountains84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 34 I would have had one earlier but I struggled with fertility problems. Saying that there are things to be said for late mohterhood, you are more patient in general, you don't feel like you are missing out on your life like you do when you're young and sitting home with a baby. On the negative side sleepless nights and running around after a baby/toddler gets harder the older you get.
2006-10-18 06:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by Nobody200 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i had my first son at the age of 21. i am now 24 next month and he will be 3 in feb, i felt ready his dad is 33 in feb and we both felt ready for the baby. We get married next year, i wouldnt change anything, we also have his son from his prev relationship who lives with us he is 9 . i love my boys ( all three of them) and would love another after we are married.
but i have found a lump in my breast and waiting for diganosis,
u will know when u and ur partner are ready,
dont hurry into something .
2006-10-18 17:39:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋