I have talket to him abou it and he say they mean nothing. That is just for fun and that nothing happened between them. AA couple of years back i found out he was calling one of them, again he say theyre just friends. He say i have nothing to worry about but still bothers me and he knows it. What should I do. Shoul I go ahead and do the same? I really dont get a kick out of it but dont know what should I do. Please help.
2006-10-17 23:05:15 · 22 answers · asked by xadralix 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Theyare not underage. Some of them are even older than both of us. Nothing sexually explicit. They also know a lot about all of us. When our kids were born, his birthday,, my work, his job( he is a soldier).
2006-10-17 23:40:17 · update #1
u also talk 2 a bunch of boys on the messenger and u should make ur husband jealous.
2006-10-17 23:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by cutey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is being very immature and getting a rush with the female attention. He must be insecure if he needs to validate himself with other woman.
I would be livid! Especially about the phone call.
My daughter & her bf met on Yahoo personals. And they have been together for more than two years and have a baby.
People connect all the time. It is VERY innapropiate for a married man to be chatting with women online. He is dishonoring his marriage vows to you. He is what I would call having emotional affairs. People who chat online are often very lonely and missing something in their lives. You husband isn't giving you the attention you need. Make sure you are available.
Your husband needs to spend more time in the real world.
I would check him out for depression.
He has created a world where he can be whoever he wants to be. He can feel his ego stroked. And he is addicted. It is very sad.
Get some marriage counseling asap. If he won't go, then you need to go.
Be strong and stand firm. The man needs help
2006-10-17 23:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two wrongs don't make it right. And it should bother you. If there's any one your husband should be having fun with and sharing whatever he shares with women outside the covenant of marriage, it should be with you his wife, confidante and friend.
But before you decide to tell him about how you feel about this, consider first how you should approach him with it. A confrontation may only lead to resentment, anger and frustration and further distancing himself from you. Remember, men's egos are most sensitive when deflated so care must also be considered. If you've never done this before, pray to the Holy Spirit and ask for the right words to say and He is always faithful to come to your aid at the perfect time and way. all you need to do is pray, then trust completely.
2006-10-17 23:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by MJF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is trying to live out some fantasy life online... im sure a lot of men do this, married, in a relationship... theyve got their dream woman, or so they say... but they still continue to thrive off of the attention that other females give... its a guy thing. *not that im a guy* but I do know a once married, now divorced man who did this... and eventually took the online life, into real life... and he ruined his marriage because of it.
Tell him to knock it off, or youre gone... cause the truth is, its only going to get worse. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-10-17 23:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by llsoinlovell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap him upside his head and tell him to knock it off and grow up that if he wants to talk to a woman he is married to one.Tell him weather he thinks it is nothing or not that he is suppose to love you and not intiontially hurt you and that is what he is doing by talking to other women and if he does not then you will have to start talking to other guys and that one of them might end up respecting you and caring how you feel and not wanting to hurt you and you don't know where it will end up and you don't want that to happen so knock it off. :) and if he still don't listen then like the other person said throw the computer out and if that don't work cause of cell phones and stuff then find another man to talk to and see how he reacts then Good luck and God Bless
P.S. remember for guys sometimes it just takes a good slap upside the head to knock some sense into them sometimes they don't realize your really bothered so you have to show them.
2006-10-17 23:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by hubbys2ndbest2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used IM to meet woman looking for affairs. Have met many this way it always starts out innocently and works up to meeting them. Once you meet the true fantasy begins and finally your sneaking around and cheating on your spouse. IM's have allowed many stay at home moms to find a man to cheat with.
2006-10-18 00:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first how old are these girls your husband is talking to? If they are under 18 it is sick and he needs help. You say that this has been going on for a couple of years, why would you tolerate this and his disrespect for you? I suggest you leave him and find someone that will respect you. Good luck
2006-10-17 23:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think your husband may be cheating on you. If he is keeps saying that all the time when you talk to him, then try to see other behaviours of him. You have to investigate and try to get an evidence that he is cheating. Don't get emotional about the things that are happening when you are investigating. Be patient and see what you trap is getting him to.
2006-10-17 23:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what your husband is doing is scary . these women know your kids b-days? where he works/? Has he ever heard of ppl stalking ppl? What your husband is doing is very foolish he is putting your kids at risk there are alot of pedofiles on the internet. They could be zeroing in on your husband to get closer to your kids. Be carefull I cannot stress this enough . your husband needs to grow up . Good Luck and god bless.
2006-10-18 00:50:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has nothing to hide ask to see his message archive and make sure it is activated and read the conversations hes having....invasion of privacy? stiff **** i say cos my husband chose his pc and women over me an his kids...he went to the next level an was with one physically ,his loss im happily divorced and i dont think asking him to delete messenger is an issue either chat is rampaging with people looking for sex is it not?
2006-10-17 23:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋