If we have sex 3 times a month it is alot. Its like i dont do anything to him even if i lie naked next to him it doesnt turn him on. He is also very lazy and doesnt want to do anything. What can i do to change this i know he loves me alot and also i love him very much but i cant carry on like this. I cant stand to be rejected and talked to him all the time but then it is going ok for 2 weeks and then we are back to square one. Help me or else we are going to have a divorce. I dont know if he has a problem because after sex his penis is swelling in the front, and it takes him about one minute to ejacuate. Help
2006-10-17 23:01:45 · 14 answers · asked by hanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel. He might have some medical problems and let him know that he needs to see a doctor they have some wonderful drugs that can help. good luck
2006-10-17 23:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not think of divorce. Take idea from doctor why after sex his penis is swelling in the front. You see ejacuating depends upon once desire be fast or slow to enjoy better. You must adopt tactics to put your hands on his penis and politely molish to inspire his sex desire. There are many ways, you should not be shy, a day will come you will enjoy best from his penis. Do not worry and never think of divorce.
2006-10-18 07:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by pretty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that its the medical problem that is in the way of your sex life. He might feel very uncomfortable with this problem and wants to stop sex all together because he doesnt want to dissappoint you. Reassure him that you will be there for him no matter what and talk about possibly going to a doctor and getting it checked. If there is true love and communication everything can be sorted out.
Good luck.
2006-10-18 07:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is very lazy then change his diet and have him exercise with you. do more things togethere and improve on diet as it has a import part in your sex life and energy levels. no energy no sex. go to sex shops and look at porn to learn a few pointers with him. don't expect to be able to do everything that they can but try in the bath tub and use flavor lubricants, bring in the honey from the kitchen and massage him with cornstarch as it will feel like silk. make sex enjoyable and something to look forward to. But work on the energy level first that will improve both of your overall life's and health
2006-10-18 06:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act like a new woman... dress different, change your hair slightly, Be a little offish with him.. not in a nasty way just act like youve got other things to do and that are important to you other than him. And dont make it easy for him to have sex with you if he ever wanted it. Men want what they cant have!!!! Thats a fact. My boyf gets like that from time to time so then i know its time to remind him of what hes got. Works a treat, dont be worried about flirting with other people too!! Sounds silly but if they know you are attractive to other men you instantly become more attractive to them!!!!!! TRUST ME, lifes not that peachy that you dont have to play little games now and then!! Good luck!!
2006-10-18 06:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jenie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are really men who are lazy in sex. They want the woman to do them always which of course women get tired of it in the long run. If you love him then, maybe you have to be patient with him but if you think sex is the most important thing....then devorce him quick
2006-10-18 06:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by rosamia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the aggressor. If you want it, take it. You have to take the initiative. Dress sexier, wear makeup, pretty hair, etc.... men are very visual so you need to make an effort to look nice. If you are laying there naked and he makes no response, just roll over to him and start, um, messing with him, or just start giving oral. That oughta do it.
2006-10-18 10:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try sex therapy u and ur husband
dont be afraid of new things
and u have to realize that at some point u and ur husband WILL
stop having sex people get old as u shuold know
and if he doesn't satisfy u get some help if u know what i mean
2006-10-18 06:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by Tarek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that both of you should see a counsellor or sex therapies. It is serious because he has a penis problem and ejaculating in one minute, surely his ego is hurt. That is why he refrain from sex.
2006-10-18 06:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has some problem with the penis - something strange, and probably that's the reason.
2006-10-18 06:05:33 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋