i am single
2006-10-17 22:56:07 · 24 answers · asked by titchy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Hi Tichy
Your single and your 18, you have your whole life ahead of you for having kids. Enjoy your life abit, i have my daughter at 18, i am now 42. I only got married because my ex hubby wanted it this way. Yes i said EX. Please think long and hard before you deside that you want a baby
2006-10-17 23:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I would say that you are! I know that young single mums can and do have fantastic lives with their children, but I don't think it is necessarily the best way to bring children into the world. A stable, loving relationship is all ways better for a child. Also, at 18 you are in the prime of having as much fun as you possibly can, without any responsibilities or worries. Having a child now would put a halt to that completely.
If I were you I would spend the next few years having fun, then finding a good bloke (take your time) then settling down, making sure you have money etc. and then having a couple of sprogs!
2006-10-17 23:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by Dunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i been getting broody since i was 14 but im glad i didnt go get pregnant im now 21 and engaged (weve been together 4 years) and 22 weeks pregnant and im glad i waited till the right time. being a single mum is very hard plus you have to think about how you are goin to surport it, do u really want to live on hand outs??( thankfully my bf has a good job and can suport me) i know how you feel but i also know how hard babys and kids are to look after you have plenty of time yet, and wouldnt you prefere to have someone there for suport? i know there are single parents out there that do a great job but im sure it hrd on them finacily and mentaly. obviously it worth it but it better to have help. so wait if u have plenty of time yet, and if you havin a loving partner with you. itll be even nicer
2006-10-17 23:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by invigeration69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you make up your mind, think about these:
1) A child will need food, clothing, a sitter (if you are working or studying), regular medical tests and good education. Can you afford all of them?
2) You can no longer go to movies, parties, or anywhere without first considering if your child will be well cared for while you are out. Those allnights out? They're gone once you have a kid.
3) When you travel, you will have to bring along feeding bottles, formula, baby clothes, toys, etc. Ready to be a pack horse yet?
4)Your child will wake you up in the middle of the night - even several times during the night. You will have to toilet-train your kid, get him not to wet the bed as he grows older and teach him to feed himself without spilling half of his meal on his lap (or your lap). Think you need your 'beauty rest'? Forget it.
I could go on and on. Got two kids of my own so I know.
Difference here is, I got mine when I turned 30. I was READY and more than ABLE.
Still, I thank God I have a great wife who shares the responsibilities.
Goodluck.
2006-10-18 00:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by petetabingo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first child at 16 years and wouldn't recommend it. I dont regret my kids but wished i had lived my life first. Im now 35 years and expecting my 8th child!! Live your life make sure you've found the right partner for you then when your sure of all this go ahead and get pregnant and enjoy! Make sure your 100% positive this is what you want as you will be responsible for another person for at least the next 18 years.
2006-10-17 23:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never imagined how hard it would be to have a baby until I became a mother. I'm 29yrs old, have a nice apt, plenty of money for everything my baby needs, a loving husband, an education, everything that is important to provide a loving environment for my child and I find it OVERWHELMING at times. I know you feel sure, but I remember being absolutely sure of myself at that age too and now I think of how SILLY I really was. Wait...
2006-10-17 23:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by MaPetiteHippopotame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first ofall i would make sure i was in a stable relationship first.you dont want your kid to find out they are the product of a one night stand do you?
its also important they have two supportive parents there for them throughout their life.
i had my boy when i was18 and it was not easy!!!
you need some one there to share the burden.
so my advice would be to find the right man first, get into a loving,stable, relationship and then talk about starting a family.
you dont want to end up just another single teenage mum im sure....
2006-10-17 23:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by graemekennedy1973 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
even if in case you had not stated which you have been finding at different women you're able to desire to not bypass forward with those marriage plans. you have stated, "I in basic terms met her 4 weeks in the past". "i'm not sure if i admire her or not". i'm at a loss for words". "i don't discover her that appealing". "i'm in basic terms 18". What are you not seeing here? it quite is surprisingly clean which you have improper stable communication and her doing issues for you for the deep dedication and lasting journey of shared laughter, problems, pastimes and in simple terms user-friendly time that's mandatory for love to bloom and final. i'm optimistic which you like this lady yet you do in contrast to somebody in a week and characteristic intercourse with them till you have adequate time to construct the commencing place for something that could final. confer with this lady and tell her the reality. you have been shifting too rapid, you opt for greater suitable than in simple terms intercourse between you so as that needs to be positioned on the lower back burner for awhile and you're able to desire to be certain if could make it as a pair over the years. you have 4 years of school in simple terms before you and a exceptional form of becoming as much as do. no count if it quite is meant to be, you will nevertheless be there for another in 4 years. no count if it quite is going to not withstand the attempt of time once you're in school , it quite is going to never delay whilst genuine existence starts off.
2016-11-23 17:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by glasow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just want something of your own to give u unconditional love, i was the same at your age, i didnt have my first till i was 21 and even then i think i may have been too young, the pressure is unbearable at times and i had a supportive husband. They also dont come cheap and believe me a life on benefits is not all its cracked up to be, i'm on my own now and its ridiculously hard financially and emotionally. Go to uni first, make loadsa money than have one, dont do it the wrong way round like me!!
2006-10-17 23:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Tallulah♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't want kids yet. I mean, do you have a steady job, your own place, money saved up, money for babysitters, a support system if you get sick or can't take care of the child for a little while? Live a little first and prepare for a kid. You can't be ready yet, you had to have just graduated!
2006-10-17 23:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by Belly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋