My friend (female) says that we're close friends and that she doesn't see us being anything more. I respected her decision and we've still remained close friends. Everytime I mention a girl that I'm interested in she changes the subject straight away and does not seem comfortable with me telling her who I'm interested in (no dirty/sexual info). As a close friend (where we tell each other everything) surely this should not bother her??? Also when we speak about sex (we usually do anyway) I asked if the thought of us sleeping together would repulse her (asked out of curiosity-wudn't try anything). She answered that it would not.(we're very honest+open with each other!)Was her answer strange,seeing she only see's us as friends,surely the thought should repulse her???We also continue to see each other on a weekly basis, even though we don't live in the same town, even after she said there would be nothing between us?(her suggestion to meet, not mine). Is this normal??
2006-10-17 22:20:20 · 7 answers · asked by Machine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have kissed once and thats when she decided we would remain friends, nothing more.
I am male by the way!She says that I am attractive,its not my looks, nothing about my personality, she just could not give me a reason why we wouldn't get together.Everytime I suggest we stop meeting up, she tells me to stop being silly and to get that thought out of my head. Is it still wise to see her so often (I do like her still a bit and she knows this,as I've told her) should I back away for good or just a while?I don't want to hurt her-she's a sweetie!
Cheers for all answers.I've spoken to her and she says the situation is resolved bwt us-I don't believe it is, its like we're an unofficial couple e.g. joked that she went out last night with a bloke, and she txts back explaining herself to me,when I was only joking around. Surely this is not normal? All our friends also agree we're lying to ourselves.
2006-10-17 22:21:11 · update #1
I think that she secretly likes you but is too afraid to admit it bcoz sometimes a relationship can ruin friendship! Just hang on in there coz i rekon u could well get somewhere with her soon! You talking about this other girl has made her realise she does care for you, thats y she changes the subject!
Good luck hun xxx
2006-10-17 22:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Jodi ♥ Kaydi's Mummy ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once had a girlfriend with whom I was really close. We'd meet several times a week, go away together, enjoy each other's company, for several years. I was often incredibly frustrated because she wouldn't allow us to get truly intimate - neither physically nor emotionally. There was never a proper reason given; my attempts to get closer were usually dismissed with an: "Oh, come on, get real"
One weekend, when we were away together (and at her instigation) the barricades came down and we talked and got closer and made love.
And she's ignored me ever since.
Sometimes I delight in the memories of that one episode of intimacy, yet much more I miss the memories of 'us'.
Be sure you know what you're asking for, as some people may not be able to accept and maintain the same emotional relationship with someone with whom they have a physical relationship.
2006-10-18 00:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by skiving_hack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through. I have layed my heart bare to this girl and she made it clear friendship was were it stopped but still texts me everyday. We go out and have a great time. Any girl interested in me would surely think we were involved so it kind of limits my chances of happiness by staying friends with her. What the hell do you do in a situation like this.
I am hoping someone can answer your question because I need help as well. I love her and she knows but it hasn't changed anything. I am beginning to think she enjoys the buzz of knowing she can have me anytime but would rather just continue leading me on.....powertrip!!!!
I am clueless, best of luck!!!
2006-10-17 22:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by mbaker_713 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but she decided early on she is not going to sleep w/ you. She probably likes you as a friend, but you just don't do it for her sexually. However, that doesn't mean she doesn't like the attention and that she can't stand your sexual interest going elsewhere. She already knows you want her. Very flattering and an ego boost. Very addictive and most girls eat it up. That is why they will keep flirting after they shoot you down and act like "what?". Plus note for you, slight chance she might sleep with you now. Her lust place in your heart is being threatened. You can use that to your advantage.
2006-10-17 22:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by TanyainCali 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No to "surely the thought might desire to repulse her" i admire my pals and having friendly intercourse isn't some thing repulsive. She probable only did no longer experience something different than friendship love while she kissed you, and as a result would not want any romantic courting. Sorry, i be attentive to how lots it hurts to love somebody and not be enjoyed decrease back. only attempt to delight in what she is waiting to share with you, and don't fantasize approximately her and what you want.
2016-12-16 09:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by vazid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she doesnt want to lose having you in her life. Maybe you havent convinced her you like her enough. You've said on here you like her a bit!! Is this enough to risk losing a good friendship?
2006-10-17 22:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by janetlouise24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a females perspective i'd say thay she doesn't want to lose her close friend, even if it means turning him into her lover. She might come around one day!!! :D
2006-10-17 22:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by Jess B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋