Loneliness - how to overcome?

Question

It seems I have everything going for me

- good job
- married
- kids
- friends
- family
- adequate wealth
- god fearing

Yet with all these things, I feel incredibly lonely. Often it occurs after the family has gone to bed, or for that matter any time that I am alone with my thoughts.

I'm really not sure how to overcome this.

Any thoughts.

Answer 1

Are you not lonely because of your marriage ?
Why didn't you go to bed with your "family" ?
Why are you here at this hour when your "family" is in bed ?
Does your "family" understand you, care about you, so share with you every little thing in life ?
Is that your true soul-mate or just your "living-mate"?
......

We need someone to really love and to live close to each other for not feeling lonely. If your "someone" is there close to you but you still feel lonely, do you really love each other (with the real real meaning of this word)?

Other things you and other people mention about (jobs, goals, God ...) are things that make you more or less happiness in life, but loneliness is another thing (when you feel you are lacking of a true companion). Friends, kids, family ... count some, but not the all.
Love something, do something that you like ... just helps you temporarily forget the loneliness, but does not make it vanish, because lacking of loving things or doing things is not the real reason of loneliness. When you have everythings you desire, sometimes you may still feel some emptiness. But here you say "incredibly lonely", it must be the reason of a true lover/life companionship.
That's why a man always feels the need of a woman, a woman always feels the need of a man - as mother Nature had designed us.

You can be pleased with your good job, happy with your wealth, your wonderful kids, excelent friends ... but if you have no true companionship, you still feel lonely in your heart.
Vice-versa, you might be in missery (not lucky in job, have little or no money, apart from friends and family ...) but if you have someone who really loves you, care about you and share with you everything and all the feeling (happy or sad ...), you would not feel that lonely.

Answer 2

Well if you believe in God, then you know in your heart that you're never alone. But what your feeling is normal. Do you know what your passion is? Despite all that you have, do you enjoy doing something like art or something that really ignites your inner spirit? I found my passion in a couple things actually. Doing pottery, stained glass work, jewelry, but also I loved volunteering with the Deaf/Blind. They were such a joy and taught me alot. I had a good job, and quit it to return back to college. To become an Interpreter for the Deaf. Which I was accepted into an IPP-Interpreter Preparation Program. I am married, have been for almost 30 years. Have 2 great kids, wonderful friends and family. Ok, adequate wealth, I am working on that one..Smile... God fearing too. So don't feel lonely, you need to find your passion and purpose in life. Then you won't feel so lonely anymore.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

By indulging in what you really want or love to do. It may be a special talent or hobby. Whatever it is you have to find it. You say you still feel lonely despite the good stuff, a talent or hobby is what's missing.That's the reason why life exists.

Answer 5

Possibly you need new goals. You worked, planned, thought, etc. about your goals (good job, family, kids, money, etc) and they have been achieved.
Maybe you need something to look forward to. Pick a few more things that you want to do, so that your mind is occupied with getting to those next points.

Answer 6

Lots of people struggle with feelings of emptiness. Having things will not make you happy, true happiness and contentment come from within yourself. You are as happy as you make up your mind to be. I know it is very hard to disconnect your emotional/irrational thinking and start being logical/practical/objective, but it is really necessary for you to do in order to feel better. Good luck.

Answer 7

YOu need to find out what defines you. It seems that the list above is what you think you are made up of. Its important to establish your individual character. SO now that plan is to start developing and discovering your interests. Start doing things that YOU like and that you think makes up what you are and what you stand for. You are so and so who happens to have all of the above!And start running after God!Get your identity in him. If you dont know how...just start with what you know, no matter how stupid it seems..He'll meet you halfway!

Answer 8

Dont feel lonely!whenever u feel so just pray to God.make him ur closest frnd.Secondly keep urself busy,so that u may not feel lonely.

Answer 9

You need to find a hobby. Something that you really enjoy doing.

Answer 10

When you decide that YOU are enough, the void will fill itself.