I don't have a job and can't work in this country without a work permit. I am very talented but no company wants to hire me on H1- work permit coz of the H1 problems. I feel bad that i am wasting my talent doing nothing. However some of friends who were in similar situations cud manage to do jobs for two reasons. some had their spouses who were citizen giving them automatic permit ot work and some live in bigger cities where the opportunity is more. I live in tx. I am happy for their success, but alos feel bad that i am not given a chance to even prove myself. I am frustrated and sometime feel like ending my life. i like being independent and now i am jobless without any money to spend who is dependeent on someone else. I feel jealous when my friends move ahead in life. This is wrong right
2006-10-17 22:09:31 · 9 answers · asked by highrise 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have similar feelings about not getting jobs. I feel jealous because some of my friends got jobs quickly after graduating while I am still looking. I believe that my qualification is as good as they are and I would blame that they are lucky and I am not. But look at it another way, the problem is really myself since I am not spending that much effort looking.
I am not aware of what your work permit issue is about, but you said that you are not given a chance. The old saying says that you should not wait for a chance to show up, but look for the chance yourself. Think of some other ways, I am sure you would be able to express your talent and someone would value it. If you can't do it here, go to another place. Just take the initative.
2006-10-17 22:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by Skys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Job is not everything in life. Yor are so confident about your talent, why don't you do something creatively. If you are in to IT, start a web page. You know, the famous search engines were born in car garage. The word SUCCESS has no mening without the word FAILURE. A fellow who is never sad, can never know what is happiness. These are all subjective terms. What is success to you may not be so for your friend. Talk to your friends. Things will never happen by chance, things will happen by persistance only.
2006-10-17 23:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by an Indian soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the future always has something new to offer so don't feel too bad .... success is not the criteria for a life of character so don't be harsh on yourself . take refuge in kindness you can do to make life better and things will work out in time many a successful person is more miserable than they sometimes let u know ... it just gets no greener Good luck !
2006-10-17 22:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by dogpatch USA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely normal and understandable what you are going through. Do not worry. This does not make you a hurtful, bad person. If you wanted to see them go through pain and suffer then it would be another story. But you want to have an equal chance yourself.
Do not give up....there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Good luck.
2006-10-18 01:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang on a sec!!!
a job isn't everything!!! working in the US (or wateva country you are in) isn't everything either!!! you are a special person, believe in yourself and you will succeed, but if you say to yourself, "im depressed and jealous", then you won't succeed. Just try your best! There are plenty of jobs (part-time, full-time) that don't require many prerequisites, you can always try on of those to support yourself, while you look for a better job. And dont worry, problems will simply solve themselves.
2006-10-17 22:23:27 · answer #5 · answered by zaazpa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what u r feeling is not right if u r friends r good settled u have to feel happy that u r one of there friend .automatically everyone gets the felling of jelous but it should not be there .if they r good y dont u take help from them in getting job.friend ina need is friend in deed.if u r good to ur friends u will defenetely get job for u r talent .
2006-10-17 22:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by gotimukkula v 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's easy to feel angry if you find your life unfulfilling..Focus on something you can do and you'll feel better, Do volunteer work, help your friends suceed even more...there is nothing like helping others to pick you up and prove what your made of.
2006-10-17 22:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..it's not totally wrong..u r juz jealous..no harm being jealous of people who r better than u..it will make u feel motivated to b like them..to b successful..makes u feel tat u have to work harder for things u desire..
juz tink about it..if we do not feel jealous at all..of other ppl success..we may feel content with watever we have and have no desire to b more successful..
Think Donald trump...$$$$
2006-10-18 01:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by happyness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal to feel jealous
2006-10-17 22:10:41 · answer #9 · answered by andar_ka_bandar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋