first there's so many different kind of loves, as i realize. appreciating a guy as your soulmate but less as a lover or having passionate love-relation with a guy (lacking the closeness though). i seemed to have both. i just don't get the clue. is it impossible to have both? passion and closeness (soulmate). or is a soulmate rather a friend than a lover and i should not mix up?
thing is that my boyfriend is more of a very very very close friend to me than a real lover. we flirt often and play the whole flirt-game (we are both 28 and have a five-year relationship, so i guess this is not so bad). but thing is that apart from flirting and sweet talks, there is more of a brother-sister issue involved :-( it means that attraction and needs of love are completely different. it was never ok. always week. since making love is very important to me and i'm a passionate person, this leaves me unsatisfied. i think it will NEVER much change. we talk about it. and try to change things. but fact
2006-10-17 21:42:53 · 8 answers · asked by india18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
is that you can't change "non-passion" to "passion". we can act as if.. but it is like lying to myself and to him. i miss the "real thing" lots. but i love my boyfriend for everything he is. unfortunately, things that have got to do with him as my "man", leave me unsatisfied. like i feel i cannot really rely on him. he is sweet and very charming but not a reliable partner. i don't know what to think??? is this normal that love-life lacks lots (always did). and that i keep asking myself if we are more friends than lovers... i am desperate. i don't want to miss him and leave him alone ever, but this thing leaves me full of thoughts... i appreciate your opinion :-)
2006-10-17 21:49:24 · update #1
I think you have answered your own question. You have already said that the relationship feels like a brother-sister relationship. Now that is a big clue! Why are you holding onto him when you feel this way? I think your being deceitful to him. Because your not being up front and honest with him about the sex for one, not satisfying you. And your old enough to know this. Your 28! Unless you go to a professional counselor, I think you know it will only get worse and you will end up hurting a really nice guy.
2006-10-17 22:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him 'lessons' on what you like. Guide his hand around, share fantasies, try new positions.
2006-10-18 04:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is love and it's complicated coz that's her role.There's no specific answer 4 that!Sorry...
2006-10-18 04:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by Eevi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its complex because anything worth everything always is and always will be.
2006-10-18 04:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if love was easy it wouldn't be any fun.
2006-10-18 04:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by Tony G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
theres about 5.5 billion people on this earth.......and you can only marry one of em and only one of em is right for you....... GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2006-10-18 04:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is your point
2006-10-18 04:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by rivers_mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because...it's love
and no love is perfect :(
2006-10-18 04:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by guru 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋