My wife and I are separating and she is leaving to another state with my 2 kids against my wishes. Wee that is the whole reason for the separation. My question is... She is asking me to help her get a truck and horse trailor aswell as get her into a house or apartment down in the other state. she has stated she will sign promisary notes or whatever saying she will pay me back but should i be nice and help her out or should i let her feel the cold reality of life and let her see exactly what she wants and got herself into?
2006-10-17 21:32:04 · 9 answers · asked by Joe B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
With the two kids involved be the bigger person help them get settled, I did similar things with my ex wife and my grown children have a lot of respect me, from the way I handled myself, getting divorced is always tough but it's even tougher on your kids, show them that you still love them, and what a good man you are.
2006-10-18 02:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say first of all a promisary note will not mean a thing when it comes to divorce you are still married and whatever you do while you are married well sorry but that is part of the marriage and she will not have to pay you back. Second it would be nice of you to help her just because of your children I would not pay for everything however she is gonna have to learn how to fend for herself when she is away from you so I would make her come up with half for the transportation and house she wants to leave state with your kids how long will it be before you get to see them or does she expect you to continue supporting them all 100% and never see them?
2006-10-18 06:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by hubbys2ndbest2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was the only one moving I would say let her do it on her own. But she is not she is moving with your two kids. This means hurting her is going to hurt your kids. I think you should help her for the sake of your kids. Have a contract written up making sure that she pays you back. Being nice to her will also help you to look good to your kids in the future. If you are not nice I can tell you that your kids will grow up hearing how you could have helped her but did not . I would hope that you would help her for the sake of your kids. I would also hope that eventhough she is moving out oif the state that you would want to keep in contact with your kids and you being nice will ensure you are always in thier life, also she will not turn your kids against you ...
Think about the kids and I am sure you will do the right thing
2006-10-18 04:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it best not to help her, regardless of the promise of payment, unless the cash does not mean anything to you. The whole money thing will make the divorce process more difficult as you may be resentful if she does not pay it off. There are a lot of emotions going through the two of you and you need to keep some distance between you during this period.
2006-10-18 06:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by BYT77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still the mother of your 2 kids. Why not help her out. Because in helping her out, your helping your kids. And it helps with the relationship with the kids. So why have animosity among you both. She will see that the grass is not as green in the other state.
2006-10-18 04:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I said let her do it herself and let her know how tough it is cos she made the choice of leaving and she have the responsibility to make it work. Dont believe their words trust me I have been there I know - once they get what they want you can chase till you die she wont give a damn.
2006-10-18 05:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by sasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember one day your kids will know about it...and there is no need to be bitter
2006-10-18 04:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her do it herself!!! She is on her own now!!!
2006-10-18 04:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by INC0GNIT0 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
help her with sum of that stuff
2006-10-18 05:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by abdulqaadir l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋