after 5years my bf left me for someone else.When he left i wasnt aware he did take distance but gave me hope till the last minute.am completely shattered and been suffering a lot.Havent eat nor sleep,excessive hair and weight loss.i now hav no one to text and call me,im totally alone.Have no friends had only him as my whole world today am left alone how do i forget these 5years,how do i forget him?he betrayed me,we were in love?i think all men are liars and frauds.who will cheer me up?i got nobody to share my joys and sorrows.y did he left me?
2006-10-17 19:46:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think everyone has that one big hurt. I'm sorry this happened to you, I feel your pain. If you're religious, maybe join a church in your community to meet new people. If not then perhaps volunteer. In order to feel some sort of hope right now you have to remember that as much as you are hurting right now (been there) it will get better and as hard as it is to believe this now time heals the wounds. Take a class at the local Y or look through your local paper for upcoming events. This will help fill some of the void he left...as far as what to do with time etc. and in the mean time maybe you'll make friends doing it. Don't try to put your feelings aside...cry about it and mourn the loss, thats how you eventually start to feel better . I'm sorry this happened to you. It totally totally sucks and I think many of us can relate.
Do you have family close by?
2006-10-17 20:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by brat789456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can tell you how to rebuild your life and your love. This is a horrible thing that happened to you. The thing that you have to realize is that you are without him. He is no longer in your life. So go back to the time when he wasn't a part of your life. Figure out what it is that makes you happy. If you have to work, go to the gym, meditate, listen to music, watch movies... whatever,, start living and stop acting like you're dying because you are not dead. You are alive and there is a big world out there. Take chances. Go and live your life because you only have one. Just remember one thing, the sun always rises and sets and no matter whatever has happened there is always a new day..
2006-10-17 20:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by pussnboots333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn to God because he is not a liar and he is the only one we can rely on. when we allow ourselves to rely on onother human being for our happiness and security we are only setting ourselves up for failure, because no one in this world will ever meet our expectations to please us or keep us happy the way God can. And it is also factual that we will always hurt the ones we love maybe not intentionally but it happens, where as God will never hurt us he will always love us no matter what! now the devil and the world is another horse of a different color. Be patient and have faith for in time you will rebuild and find love once again remember there is a reason and a season for everything and for everything that happens there is a purpose.
2006-10-17 21:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all chick stop! He is so not worth you crying about. You should have the love you had/have for him in yourself. You cheer you up! You share your joys/sorrows with real friends and family. Peope who are close and care. Not this fool. He is obviously not worth it! It is so hard for me to believe you have no friends. But if this is the case then you need to build up your self esteem and self worth. Go look in the mirror....look how beautiful you are! Have faith in yourself, love yourself first. You truly can't love anyone before loving yourself first. Work on you and forget about men and a partner. When you are ready love will come!
2006-10-17 19:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have faced the same, what you are going through now. What brought me out of all this, I am to share with you.
After having a steady relationship for many years(9 years), she was gone for ever. I was left alone, I did give her space and time to think about it. She finally decided to walk out of the relationship. I still respect her decision now. It is not possible to forget someone whom you love so deeply, but there is a saying, if you love someone so deeply, give him or her a space, If he/she comes back to you, he/she was always yours, but if not he/she was never yours and you should not regret for it.
Now, in respect to what to do next is, come out of that bed, and carry on with your life, There is someone waiting for you, to meet,,and to love you for ever. Come out, and find him. God will guide you to him only when you decide to find him. Best of luck for your search.
2006-10-17 20:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by Spheris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cheer up....its not worth ruining ur life over this type of guys...there are better guys out there....cry all u wan.....i noe ur heart hurts a lot n those five years meant a lot to u but u gotta let it go n move on wit life....stand up n show that u can live without him...dun let her or him ruin ur life...u gotta show her that u r strong....it takes time n courage to do this n its not easy but u gotta try...n if he loves u as much as u love him he will not betray ur love...he is not worth it at all....girl u can make it through without that kind of guy in ur life....go out have fun meet new frens...u may find it hard at first but u'll be fine...god bless u n i hope ur hurt n sorrows will recover soon..
2006-10-17 20:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by d0iNk$^^ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mmm well you will meet a lot of nasty guys BUT there are good ones out there who will care for you --- just get out and do things --- not dating just meet people enjoy your life and you may be surprised
2006-10-17 19:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all men arent like that so dont think all are as sorry as him. ty going to church and god will lift that burded away . my opion?
2006-10-17 20:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men are not like that.
have faith and rebuild your life.
http://www.lovedatingguide.com/
2006-10-17 19:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look TO god THATS HOW I DID IT
2006-10-17 19:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋