im female and been questioning for about a year... i dont find males unattractive but i find females are.. is this just a phase or do you think im actually gay?
2006-10-17 19:33:18 · 20 answers · asked by mysterious_purple_haze 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Being a lesbian can never be a phase. It's either you are, or you're not. And if you are, it's either you're a full-on lesbian, or you're bi. In your case, I'm thinking you're a full-on lesbian who's going through the normal stages of denial. I suggest you picture yourself kissing a woman you're attracted to. Should you find this *stimulating*, chances are you're a lesbian. One last thing: should realization hit you, don't be afraid to come out of the closet when you're ready. There's no fun in hiding. Best of luck! \m/
2006-10-17 22:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask the Magic 8 ball. It'd know as much as I do about you and it'll at least have the advantage of feeling your touch. I think the fact that you've been questioning this long is a strong indication that you may be lesbian or bisexual.
There's no reason to rush into defining yourself and putting yourself in a box, though. When you meet the right person, male or female, you will just know. It won't preclude the possibility of bisexuality but you'll eliminate another possibility either gay or straight.
Knowing, or thinking you know, your orientation really doesn't help all that much. It can give you a label that others are comfortable with and it can keep you from getting set up with people of the wrong gender. That's about it. You still have to decide if you want to pursue a relationship and if you want to fit into a stereotype.
2006-10-17 19:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel romantically and physically drawn to both men and women, you are bisexual. Depending on your age, it is probably not a phase if it's been going on for a year now and you still feel the same way. If it feels like a perfectly natural and intuitive thing for you, just be yourself and enjoy it. You've got the best of all worlds. If you're worried about coming out to other people, wait until you're sure of your sexuality. It helps to feel fairly confident that you are bi, so when others try to tell you it's a phase, you can explain that you have thought about it a long time and can conclude nothing else.
2006-10-17 19:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by grrluknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Well acutally it's really up to you to find out. My personal take would be bi sexual leaning toward lesbian. If most people were honest, this wouldn't be an issue. We are all attracted to both genders for different reasons and ultimately could love each other very intimately. Obviously most are not evolved enough to do this, so be grateful that you can see beauty in everyone.
BTW, my 'phase' has lasted over 20 years and I'm still more attracted to women. This didn't stop me from having a wonderful marrige and lovely children. The real question is, 'What do you want to do with your life?' Answer that and you'll be much better off than worring about who to spend it with.
2006-10-17 21:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Militia-Angel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
males are not attractive in the same way that females are. The reason we make a good (hetero) partnership is because we are different, like two pieces of a jigsaw, we contrast with and complement each other. In character as well as physically. A lot of the mutual attraction is a feeling of completeness, she does her stuff, I do my stuff and together we get it all done.
In a lot of homosexual relationships, one of the partners "becomes" the man and the other "becomes" the woman, even though they start out similar.
2006-10-17 19:40:10 · answer #5 · answered by XT rider 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
answer #a million: Get a lady friend you certainly love, no longer in basic terms to expose you're instantly. answer #2: you would possibly want to be extra manly. gay adult males are in a number of of situations "softer" and "quick talker" and stuff. answer #3: in basic terms tell them in an casual way that you're literally not gay...
2016-12-04 23:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you feel most confortable doing is what you should be doing, likewise with feelings/emotions. It's okay to be lesbian/bi. I am questioning/bi. I find guys very attractive, but I also find girls to be really attractive. So, it's really easy. You dont have to ask people for their opinion. Do what you most feel confortable doing. Good luck. ^_^
-Dr211
2006-10-17 19:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly-just be who you are not put titles on it! If you start to do that then you are setting yourself up for unrest in life. Inner peace is dependent on being happy with who you are. Live life and be happy and do not worry of such things as to sexual preference, it may or may not change.
2006-10-17 19:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No chance of being gay, cause you shared that females are unattractive.
2006-10-17 19:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by awesomefb 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You should pay careful attention to your thoughts and do what you feel most comfortable with.
Don't feel ashamed because you really can't control these things; people who say so just want to make you feel bad.
2006-10-17 21:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by K C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋