i had a crush on this guy and he was always in my mind since college days. but unfortunately at that time he was my boyfriends roommate so i couldn't do anything. even he seemed attracted towards me cos some of his close friends use to tease him by my name.but since my bf and he were also gud friends so nothing actually happened.i have broken up with that boyfriend now and am also engaged to someone. i recently found my crush online and i longed to try my relationship with him even if it means just cool friendship. he is in US and will be back soon. do u think it is ok. how should i get more of him without actually making him feel i am trying to be too close.i just want him to think about me and feeel the same way as i do . is it possible.pls help
2006-10-17 19:22:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I advice juz to leave both & have a wonderful life coz u r engaged i hope u got engaged by ur own satisfaction,u must hv said yes,why r u ruining four lives,,,u try to forget ur bf since u had break up,& abt another guy,y do u think much or juz b gud frnd wid him & spend ur life wid ur guy wid whom u r engaged
BEST LUCK!
2006-10-17 19:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by sandeep k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to break up your engagement if he recriprocates! Ask yourself that question and your answer should be a logical one! Else sacrificing a relationship that is to happen for a one that is prospective does not sound common sense to me!
If yes, then first tell your fiancee about it! Obviously he needs to know also what he is getting into!
Be prepared that your guy in the US also must have some ambition and maybe marriage may not be on his mind when he returns and you will have to hang on!
First of all ask yourself if this just an attempt to find out if this is a crush or a love relationship! Dont fool yourself and marriage is not a joke! Check for compatibility and depth of character in your future partners! That is not all - do a family check i.e. Mom-in law etc. You need a good support structure if you have to stay married for a longer period of time!
All the best
2006-10-17 19:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by indiangal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are going to make the most stupid mistake of your life. If you are engaged to someone else, you are cheating by trying to set up a relationship with another man. Don't cheat yourself by saying that you want only a 'cool relationship' with this person while you actually want much, much more. You just want to try out something that you didn't get a chance to at that time and now you think you have the chance again...so why not take it? But you're wrong..it makes you an immoral person for doing this. You were in college at the time and it was just a crush, leave this behind because you and he are both different people now and unless you want to break up your engagement and amongst all the humiliation want to pursue this man (who might not have any feelings for you)...don't even consider talking to him or getting in touch with him. And be nice to your fiancee, he doesn't deserve this.
2006-10-17 19:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line, you are in a situation that is completely in your control. Don't be selfish to the person that wants to give his life to you. If you really loved him, this would never have crossed your mind. So I think the only fair thing to do is break it off with the fiance and find out what kind of person you are and want to be. If it was an ex you once loved that you are in contact with, i could maybe see your conflict; however, this "crush" is virtually a stranger. Someone will end up getting hurt in this situation, which will probably be you. You don't need answers from anyone. Good quote to think about,"Advise is what we ask for when we know the answer but ask the question anyway."
2006-10-17 19:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, u ARE engaged,... so I guess the posibility is not there. Unless,.... did u see the movie "the notebook"? Its kinda relates what u are going thru. In the movie: She falls in love but loses contact. Then she falls in love and gets engaged! But then she asked her fiance to give her "time". Then she reunites with her "love". Her decision: She married her first love
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2016-10-02 10:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by spies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl grow up its whether u want him or u don't want him if u still love him wanna be with him talk to him if u only wanna know what u missed in college days just get it out of your system if u know what i mean and get moving with your life
2006-10-17 19:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by jaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you want to be friends again and keep it at that ....unless you willing to tell you fiance that you are interested in another man that you liked before him......... is trying to recaoture something worth losing what you have .....if it is then you arent with the right man even if the other one doesnt want you
2006-10-17 19:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by teneesha2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth what you want and how you feel it will all fall into place trust me it just happened for me except mine was with my first love and i found out i don't have the feelings i thought i had
2006-10-17 19:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by latisha92557 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do what your heart tells you to do and if he don't like you than its his loss not yours but just remember to be confident
2006-10-17 19:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by ashley c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋