Career is a bit shaky. Family is great though. Fear is how am I going to provide them the best. I feel I am talented in the field of Computer Science but I havent been able to put it to use. Some damn thing is holding me back, I feel.
2006-10-17 19:16:38 · 12 answers · asked by Teertha 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think I will have to tell you a story.
Once upon a time there was a king, who was very brave, kind, rich, intelligent and very helpful. He responses quickly for any problem, donates money and protect people from any exigency. One day some religious men from a village came to him and complained that bandits are harassing them a lot. The king immediately went with them and arrested all those bandits. As gratitude, the religious men presented the king with ring. The king refused to accept the gift stating that he has got enough wealth. Then the noble men told him that it is a miracle ring and asked him to remove the Diamond of the ring only in dire emergency. The king has accepted it. Days were gone. One day the king went for hunting to a border forest with very few soldiers. Knowing this the neighboring king attacked him in the night. The soldiers fled and the king climbed a tall tree to save his life. Two days were gone. The enemies are still searching for him. No food, No water, no sleep......Suddenly the king remembered of the ring. He broke open the ring.... But to his surprise nothing has happened.......He felt sad...He thought of throwing away the ring...then he saw a small piece of paper in side the ring. He opened and read it. It said “THIS TOO WILL BE OVER ". He started thinking.........In his life he faced bad situations several times, had wars several times. All are over now and he is still living. Similarly this too will be over. Then he got courage and got down the tree and started fighting with enemies. In the mean time the king's army reached the place and saved the king and king went back to the palace and lived happily.
So, you too follow this. This too will be over.
2006-10-17 22:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by an Indian soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray more than you have before, even if you never prayed or if you are a pastor. Next, become more social with not only those of your age group but younger. An example would be, to become a mentor for a young (17-25) group in your community or perhaps beginning such a group. Teach the combination of growing up in Christ and computers and how together it offers the object lessons of Christ. Your focus could be an well age balanced, social life . The younger group would be blessed with the opportunity of having someone to guide them into a healthy mid life crisis. :) And the older group offers you the reminder that you are not alone. "I feel Ya":)
2006-10-17 20:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no specific age. And not necessarily only one time in their lives. Generally speakiing, it's when they are bored or tired of their present life, and want to have another fling at being young again. Es- pecially if they didn't sow their wild oats enough before they married. This goes to prove that they weren't mature enough to take on the responsibilities of settling down and helping to take care of a family with kids and a wife. Once the battle of wooing, and reaping, there was a need for a new game or a new game player. My other half, is on his second go around at trying to find what he wants out of life. But this time, it's a matter of financial insecurity that keeps him connected. And he can only dream of that other life he may have had south of the border, down by the seaside watching the tide roll in and out. Now he has to be connected to a doctor for meds as he too is getting old, and he hates to face it. But we all have our dreams, of what might have been. Or what we might have been also.
2016-05-21 22:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ready for this?
That damn thing that's holding you back is YOU! Put your talent to use for yourself, not just for your employer. Start helping others in your field of expertise.
The fear of how to provide your family the best... Do more, to get more, to give more.
2006-10-17 21:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by xman77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you fear success? You should take the plunge and try to do what you love doing. Computer Science. Start looking for another job.....Cheer up, things will get better. You have a family you love. Spend more time with them and talk to somebody. Good luck.
2006-10-17 20:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by bobbie e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Terrtha: To answer your question. Firstly; there is no such thing as a "mid-life crisis" this is a bunch of Hollywood bunk. It is very normal for people to experience "down" times in life and question ourselves on how we are doing, as individuals. It is called, taking personal inventory. This taking personal inventory spurs us on to want to try harder or to promote change. It is of the negative thoughts we have, which we all have at times, that bring to our attention that something needs adjusting in our lives. "Staying, positive and motivated" is not realistic thinking, as the negative creates the anxiety to promote action (motivation) to change. Notice; you stated,"fear is how am I going to provide them..." , you see "fear" is the catalyst to change a behaviour. No; you are very normal and you will not always stay "positive and motivated" - no one does! The "damn thing" which is holding you back is the desire to become motivated enough to take action. I'm like that too, at times !!! Good luck to you!!!
2006-10-17 19:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had crisis at 40, actually I think I am still having it. I feel I should be at point A but am no where near it. Still given the circumstances I have survived and faired rather well. Look you know what you can do you - but is it really what you want to do?If so you will just have to give yourself a good slap up the side of the head and dive in.
2006-10-17 19:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Welcome to the club. I am 42, and I understand. That something is actually you. You have a strong sense of providing for your family.
Any change in the security that you have built up in that causes the unconscious mental block that is holding you back.
No caring husband / parent wants to risk the security of their family.
In order to get past this, try starting off in the new area as part time, or like a hobby.
:o)
Jerry
2006-10-17 21:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always appreciate what you have. Worrying about something before it happens will only bring you more stress. Just know that your family will always love you and be there for you, no matter what.
Take things as they come and deal with them when they arrise. If you contiune to fear the unknown, you forget how to live. If you feel you can make a change now, then do it.
Life is about taking a risk, it is how we learn, it is what make's us human.
2006-10-17 19:29:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
"The Feeling Good Book."
http://www.feelinggood.com
Will answer your Q, and show how to overcome it.
Don't say "Oh, I knew it!!"...do it.
http://www.monster.com
http://www.dice.com
http://www.theladders.com
"How to Win Friends and Influence People" Dale Carnegie
"Think and Grow Rich" Napoleon Hill
2006-10-17 19:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋