i'm a woman in my early pregnancy days my mother in laws attitude is causing me worry and insecurity pls help

Question

for the first time we went to the hospital and confirmed pregnancy from now itself my mother in law is asking my husband how much it cost for the medicine and at her time everything was free whether it is a govt hospital and all.we are expecting our first child and i feel very much worried as my MIL is so bothered abt the hospital cost.My husband is an engineer we live abroad and he earns well my mother in law spends lavishly for herself when coming to our child's issue why she is like this from the start itself her attitude is this in my case.I'm an educated women but my husband is not much happy abt me going for job.i afraid i may have to face these questions life long. My husband never says against his mother.my mother in law is a typical character who makes big drama out of small things.At this tme she even created a problem that we forget to wish his sister her birthday at right time my husband never used to do this before she says why u forgets all these things after marriage

Answer 1

Well what I would do is talk to your husband about his mother and about how she is making you feel. You shouldnt be feeling any stress right now. This is the time for joy and happiness. After you talk to your husband then both of you sit with your mother in law and let her know that she neednt worry about the financial aspect of your preg. ( since she is not the one who is paying for anything) YOur mother in law may be jealous of your happiness and just wants to ruin it for you. But dont let her. Talk to your husband and tell him how bad she is making you feel. Let her know also that she is not welcome in your home if she cannot respect you enough to stay out of your financial matters. I hope you get the support you need from your husband since it is his mother you are talking about. Good luck and Congrats on your pregnancy.

Answer 2

I didn't find a question but enjoyed reading it anyway. It is good advice and even though nobody asked you, thanks for writing it. As a MIL I would like to add a simple MYOB MIL. Translated means Mind Your Own Business Mother In Law. Not to the above writer, she's cool. But please ... MIL's .. don't give advice when you are not asked and don't tell anybody how to do something. You may be very experienced at being a mother, grandmother....etc. but things change from time to time and family to family. So, if we all MOurOB everyone is happy. It's hard not to tell a DIL she is putting the diaper on the wrong end of the baby but she'll find out soon enough.

Answer 3

No offense but your question is too long to read. However I hope this helps.
My mother-in-law drove me crazy during my pregnancy and after and with the next pregnancy. I went out of my mind because of her. I am a grandma now and try not to say a word about any thing with the way my grand children are raised. Now, I do step in when I feel my grandchildren are being abused in some way. My point is, you will be a better grandparent and mother-in-law because of your situation. That does not help now.
She is trying to save you from the things she went experienced and it makes her feel involved and part of your pregnancy. The problem is that with her being the way she is, she puts so much stress on you. Talk to your doctor, he/she has to be experienced in this field. Put your family in God's hands and you will survive. Really???








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Answer 4

First of all men never remember birthday's or anniversary's once they get married. That always seems to be the wife's job to make sure the cards get mailed or the presents bought.

Second, your finances are your business not your families'. Your husband isn't going to rock the boat with your in laws so you might as well either get used to it or fight it out with her yourself. My personal method to get around my mother in law is "kill her with kindness" and keep my time with her to a minimum. After 18+ years I almost have it down to a science. It also helps to have trusted friends to rant and rave at after you see her!! Don't rant at your hubby...all it will do is drive a wedge between you.

Take a deep breath, enjoy being pregnant and looking forward to your baby....Best wishes and Congrats...

Answer 5

tell her to give it a break she will just think it the hormones talking so don't worry