We've only been married 3 yrs and we hardly ever have sex and I found out he's been sneaking behind my back watching dirty movies when I'm sleep.........
2006-10-17 18:45:37 · 12 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to go to marriage counselling and explore the reasons for no sex. Men need sex more than women do and that's why he's watching dirty movies to fulfill his need but then again, why aren't you both having sex in the first place if you're both married? You need marriage counselling if you want to save your marriage.
2006-10-17 19:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you talk to him WHY you don't have enough sex? Also have you offered to see what he likes as far as sex? If porn is his way to his fantasy, why not try to make it reality? Better yet, since i know that watching dirty movies for you probably makes you feel like you're not being appreciated, because he has to watch other women rather than you....why not offer to make a film with him? Yes it sound like "oh you're just fulfilling the male fantasy blah blah blah" but think about it. What would you rather have...him watchin the 2 of you have sex...or him watching some fine gorgeous ho have sex? Watching his own movie might ENCOURAGE him to make it reality no? The only risk of it, is the video being exposed...somehow that always seems to get exposed, but the idea is still pretty legit.
Otherwise, your other solution is to talk about it, figure out what's going on in his head. Best solution for lots of marriage issues is communication, if you're not open, then how can the problem be known and resolved? Good luck.
2006-10-18 02:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has some fetishes or some kinky desires that he is embarrassed to share with you. He could also be a porn addict, sometimes the hardcore images become the only thing that arouses someone, so if your sex life is kind of bland or traditional, you hubby may be leaving you be in favor of the porn. You should talk with him about it and see what is up. (so to speak). Obviously if he is watching dirty movies he has some appetite for sex, he should be looking to you for fun too!
2006-10-18 01:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you a stay at home wife? If you are instead of staying in your PJ's all day and looking like crap why don't you spruce yourself up a bit. Go for jogs during the day and do physical activities so that you are in good condition when he comes home from work.
if you work you should try and make some time on the weekend to surprise him (with something "adult")
If he doesn't click after all of this then you should have a serious talk to him
2006-10-18 01:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and spice up your sex life a little. Find out why he's watching movies instead of you!!
2006-10-18 01:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation demands some serious counseling. When men prefer fantasy to the real thing they have gone over board.
2006-10-18 01:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a freind with a video camera ?? take it, sit in a chair fully clothed, and film it for about 10 min, sit there and just smile and maybe wave some.... switch it with one of those movies and one nite fake sleep, sneak a peak and see what he does when he puts your movie in ...... rofl....... God bless
2006-10-18 01:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BUSTED!!! well you can yell at him or watch those dirty movies with him and see if they lite a fire...or get some movies of your own.
2006-10-18 02:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by hamhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably doesn't like sex with you... is he out of shape? sex can be physically demanding and sometimes porn is just easier.
If not then maybe he is more of a watcher than a doer...
2006-10-18 01:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by travis R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you offered to watch them with him? He might want some action while you are watching.
2006-10-18 01:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by C. V. C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋