My fiance has 3 children under the age of 18 and pays support for all three...Before we get married, is there a legal document I can sign stating that i do not want to be responsible for paying for children whom i did not bare? Am i mean for asking this question?
2006-10-17 18:35:39 · 19 answers · asked by 6cancer9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are not responsible what so ever. You have an obligation in helping to raise them now, but not in helping paying for the child support.
2006-10-17 18:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you're not mean at all, nor selfish.That is his obligation. I would think if you enter into this marriage and he has children beforjand that you did know about, that you would at the least accept them, but I dont think that you should be legally obligated to HAVE to pay for children that have no realtion to you except through marraige. I think that should be youre decision to do if you choose. I dont know if such a document even exists that say you do or dont have to pay. But stepping i knowing, you have the choice before things even get too serious. Those would be serious factors to consider before marraige, because ultimately, they would be in your life, unless he's one of those dads that was just a donor and plays no real parenting part in the kids lives.
2014-02-26 16:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by yasma w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not responsible for it; he is. The child support should be based on his income only. If he owes back child support they can take it out of his tax refund. In that case, there is a paper you can file to keep them from taking your share of the refund. Your tax preparer can help you with this. You're not mean for asking but there's no reason to sign anything before you get married. I assume he's not a deadbeat or you wouldn't be marrying him. The money for childsupport will come out of his pay, not yours.
2006-10-18 01:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by C. V. C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not mean for asking this question, you are perfectly right, it is not your duty to take care of someone elses responsibilities. I think that you should speak to a lawyer in regards to doing up a pre nupt and speaking to your husband about it also.
Also you should really think about what kind of a guy has 3 kids under 18 and is no longer with ther mother....what will he do when you two have kids.
2006-10-18 01:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, a new spouse and their income is not taken into account when child support payments are figured out - at least not in Michigan. My ex tried to get his child support payments reduced when I remarried. The court stated that new spouses are not financially responsible for children.
2006-10-18 02:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by artist2213 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't be held responsible, but every state varies. You might want to check with the courts to make sure. If he is behind however when you file your taxes and you yourself are employed you will need to file an injured spouse form to keep them from keeping your return as well. And no, contrary to what everyone else might say or think you are not mean.
2006-10-18 02:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not mean, but what difference does it make? He'll be paying about 40-50% of his income to his ex-wife. Can you live with that? Are you willing to pitch in 150% to make up for his financial obligations? Skip vacations. Not get that new car. Budget. Know he can't afford to support you and them? Be a working mother because daddy is already paying for other kids and there's not enough cash for your family?
(I'm against recycling used men, so I wouldn't even consider marrying someone with 3 minor kids, personally.)
2006-10-18 01:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have absolutely no legal obligation to use any of your income for his child support. His support is based solely on his income. The only time you can get bit is if he is in arrears and they snatch your joint tax refund, this can be avoided by him being current on support, which if he is an honorable guy shouldnt be a problem
2006-10-18 09:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
legally if you are married your assets are used in figuring the amount of child support. i honestly have no clue if you can opt out. i even asked a lawyer once about this, and he said there's no way to opt out once you are married. i don't know if this varies as i am in the state of illinois, maybe other states have different laws and regulations.
2006-10-18 01:41:01 · answer #9 · answered by LadieVamp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to be supporting them anyway. When you take him on you take his children on to. No you won't be responsible for paying for them. That his job
2006-10-18 01:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by Ellen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋