I am currently in my 38th week of pregnancy. I am a first time mom-to-be. Thru the past month I've almost been questioning if Im truthly ready for this. I always wonder if I can handle this and will I be a good mother for our baby. Is it normal to get anixcious or have second thoughts about things of this nature?
2006-10-17 18:32:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Totally natural...we all go through it...and get through it. The best advice I can give you is to not listen to most of the advice you will get and go with your instincts. Common sense is your best guide, don't get swayed by fads, talk to your doctor and ask questions! The only stupid quiestion is the one you don't ask. Best of luck and congrats...
2006-10-17 18:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is VERY normal! In fact, I'd question those who didn't have at least a bit of apprehension about undergoing such a life-changing experience as the care of a new helpless human being! All this means is that you want to be the best mom you can for your baby, and since this is the first time for you, there's no way to really KNOW ahead of time what it will be like. But you will get through it just fine and each day you will have a bit more confidence in yourself. For times when you aren't sure what to do, there's always Mom, friends, your doctor, and your fellow Moms here!
Relax... you're about to undertake the most rewarding experience of your life. Congrats!
2006-10-17 18:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by suninmyskies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, It perfectly normal too have these thoughts!! I have three kids, and believe me, I was extremely worried while I was pregnant with my first. You will be a good Mom because you're allready worrying about being one!! lol..You will have these thoughts come around even after you have your child, you'll find yourself asking "am i a good mom" " can I do this" and the list goes on and on...But that, also, is normal..
You'll be fine..I would tell you not too worry but i know how hard that is..but I hope I've helped reasure you some anyway...
2006-10-21 13:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is very normal to have these thoughts and questions. The birth of your child will not stop this thought process either. You, as a parent, will continue to wonder and question the things you do because you want the best for your child. Trust your instincts read lots of books or do research online and you will do fine. Don’t be afraid to ask questions or voice your concerns. Congrats!
2006-10-17 18:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by Forever Connected 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is totally normal. i just had my first baby on sept 22 and the last 5 or 6 weeks of my pregnancy i did the same thing you are. i had serious doubts and almost feared for my child because i thought id hate being a mom. but now that he's here, i LOVE it! i cant imagine life without him. just make sure to get help with household chores and other non-baby-related things, and be sure to sleep when the baby sleeps...it'll help you keep your sanity! good luck & congrats!
2006-10-17 19:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by mamacat78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely normal. I had so many thoughts that I would be the worse mother in the world. But I can tell you this, as soon as you hold your child you feel the love they instill in you. Thats when you understand you would do your best to make sure you are going to be the best mom. If you feel depressed afterwards or still unsure talk to your OB.
2006-10-17 18:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by loopy lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it is and it's all right to think that way if you're having your first child coming. Parenting isn't perfect--doesn't come with an instructional manuel. Just do your best. But its okay to wonder if I'm going to be a good parent. U know I would too if I knew I was becoming a dad for my first time.
2006-10-17 18:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by chuck h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! I think that people would be lying if they didn't wonder that at least once, even if it's their tenth baby!
You'll probably get more nervous as the day approaches, and then afterwards as your hormones fluxuate. Just be sure to tell your doctor if the feelings start to get really bad, or if you have terrible mood swings, or if you think you are having Post-partum depression.
2006-10-17 19:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing, as i think almost every first time mom does at some point. Relax honey!!!! Everything will fall into place and your motherly instinct will kick in.
2006-10-17 19:39:44 · answer #9 · answered by mizzgov_08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when yur baby gets here make sure you love him, and your doubts are because you are a caring mom already..... at this point is late to question yourself, but look for the support of others at all time and man, life will become more meaningful after you give birth.... dont be scare...
2006-10-17 19:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by tjdeya24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋