I recently found out my boyfriend is telling my cousin boyfriend all the personal things that go on in our household. My cousin boyfriend Scott tells my cousin. Now i found out through her he is sharing personal things with her. I am so embarrassed and hurt. The reason why is because i have asked him not to talk about our business to him on several occasion. Example: He told Scott that my daughter was evicted from her apartment, He told Scott we got in a fight and about some money we got in an argument about. I found all this out through my cousin. I feel i can not trust him now. I feel betrayed. Please help me out on this one.
2006-10-17 18:26:29 · 11 answers · asked by shoe_diva69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Trust is the basis for relationships to work. He can't be trusted, so your choices are to dump him or just live with it.
2006-10-17 18:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel betrayed too. The person you put your trust in. Sit down and talk to about it, tell him you found out that he was telling yoll business, and ask him why. I know you ask him not to say anything but it seems like sometimes we need someone to talk to sometimes, he just open up to the wrong person. I'm pretty sure you have some one you talk to. well just give him another chance. Good Luck!! I hope you make the right decision.
2006-10-17 18:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the best things about a relationship is being so close to someone that you can share anything with them and they will protect your privacy and stand by you at almost any cost. This man sounds more like a gossiping girl than a man.
If you have told him to keep his mouth shut several times it only makes sense that it is not going to happen. If you can't live with the fact that your man is a gossip, I would get rid of him and find someone like the first sentence in my response.
2006-10-17 18:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust your man with the small things, 'what makes you think you can trust him with anything important??? I would advise you not to share information, but I really don't think that would change things. For all you know, he could be telling more of your business than you know. Possibly, some real PERSONAL STUFF. If I can't trust a friend/female with our/mine personal matters, than I don't need to be with that person! Why would anyone want to be involved with someone who tells all your/our business?? Sometimes men/boys gossip more than women. The problem is not going to change unless you change it! LOL
2006-10-17 18:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First give him the benefit of asking why??and let him know exactly how you feel and ask him why?4 years is allot of time to put into a relationship but if there`s no trust what do U have...Is this all he does...maybe you should check him out more
2006-10-17 18:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur boyfrnd tells ur cousin? try to understand from his point of view sometimes whenn we r seekin advice, we tend to tell all our persnal staff but it is hard for u becoz the person he is tellin is ur cousin. Anyway try to talk abt how u feel with him, tell him how its affectin u that he is tellin ur cousin. From here u will find a way forward together.... all the best
2006-10-17 18:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by aasweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you can't discuss anything with your husband. Just don't give him any important information if you can help it, because he will only gossip.
2006-10-17 18:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by LVieau 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read him the RIOT ACT.
I don't tell personal stuff from relationships I was in 20 years ago!
It's not classy.
2006-10-17 18:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like a child. Drop him.
2006-10-18 04:24:20 · answer #9 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell everyone he has a microscopic pee-pee!
2006-10-17 18:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋