I had never loved be for. I was always afraid that if I let my self love some one would brake my heart ,and i didn't want to deal with that .I got married because I didn't want to be alone but I new I could never love him.
I new that he loved me so I thought it would work but now i am going through the big D .I was told that it didn't work because i am not able to love do u think thats true?
and then I was told that it is better to have loved and lost rather than to not have loved at all do u think thats true .
i read all qu- about having a broken heart and how they cant get passed it but I am only 29 i dont want a broken heart
2006-10-17 18:17:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is to late for me and my soon to be x the person i want to let in is simon but i just dont no if i can
2006-10-17 18:26:05 · update #1
hay pete i already feel bad do u have to make it worse
2006-10-17 18:38:01 · update #2
my na- email me
2006-10-18 13:17:43 · update #3
Once you let yor heart go it begins to grow. Just like your first boyfriend you thought you were in love with and what happen? you got hurt then closed your heart for good?
My heart has been broken three times "shattered" to pieces and it was hard but I pulled myself together and help my best friend out with some work to ease my mine. Since then my heart has grown and so has my love. You cant learn to ride a bike unless you keep trying. If you succeed great my best wishes to you. If you should fail at least you tried and had some fun along the way.
2006-10-18 12:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by your neighbor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love your husband. There's nothing wrong with that. There's this quotation " Love like its never going to hurt ". Yes love can hurt but you're married now, let go of your fears and show your husband what a great lover you can be. You've already won half the battle...he loves you...so there's little chance of a broken heart! Get counselling if you want to but do concentrate on this life and no, its not better to have loved and lost because a broken heart is no fun but its not good to never have loved at all. So take care and be good to your husband, try to fall in love with him and don't give up.
2006-10-18 01:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, everyone needs to experience a broken heart. That's the only way that you can relate to other people who have been through the same, learn how to heal, learn how to love, learn how to be careful when you love, and a lot of other things.
It takes time to get over a broken heart. Sometimes, it's only days. Sometimes it can be years. But the thing is that you grow stronger through your pain and learn how to live.
If you've ever lost something in life that was dear to you--if you've ever had someone die, lost a pet, lost a good friend; you have experienced a heartbreak at some point in your life.
I lost my goddaughter in March to the hands of a killer who was never caught, and never will be. The pain was horrible and immense. But little by little, I'm learning to deal with it.
You need to throw caution to the wind and put your heart out there. Yes, it may be used, abused, hurt, even broken, but you will be a much stronger person because of it.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-18 01:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is better to have loved... than never to have loved at all...yes...this is true...to love is a wonderful experience...and you sell yourself short when you do not allow yourself to love.
Yes, of course their are some risks! Maybe the person you love may not love you. Maybe you run into the biggest con-man living - but there is a possibility that you find the love of your life. These are the chances we take. There is always a certain amount of vulnerability in life we just try to make the best possible choices available at the time.
You'll never miss what you never had...but love (even with a broken heart) has its life lesson.
Keep your guard up, but do, at some point allow yourself to love someone and someone else to love you.
2006-10-18 01:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by californian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
broken hearts are part of the learning process of life... how can u love if u haven't even had a little piece of it. There's nothing bad that happens for a good reason. However, u dont have to be heart broken to learn what love is.... u have to love yourself first and the be able to love someone else. Self confidence, sense of belonging, stuff like that makes u realize that u love urself and that might help u.
2006-10-18 01:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by alex.dwello 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a mysterious thing. It will sneak up on you when you least expect it. You got married for the wrong reason. You need to find a person and learn about them. Find some one with the same interests develop a relationship with them. Do not worry about love it will find you. Part of life is having certain experiences, these experiences teach you how to live. I think you are probably able to love. It is true about love (better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all) Love is the most wonderful part of life..
2006-10-18 01:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by READER 1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you knew you could "never love him" why the h*ll do you have a broken heart and why the h*ll did you ever marry him??? You need to stop trying to force love and let it happen. If you never find someone you love in your life too bad. Its not worth going through a divorce to try and tell yourself for a year that you love this person. And you are able to love, you just need to understand what love is. Love is not this perfect connection that consists of no arguments yada yada yada. Its a committment to the one person whom you feel you cant live without. Who you'd never want to be apart from, even when your fighting.
2006-10-18 01:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its interesting that in your question it is all about you you you. You dont want a broken heart? well, I dont think you will ever have one because it already seems that at age 29 yours is made of stone. You dont think of all the people you hurt, your ex husband and perhaps children if there were any, parents and grandparents of both families. All you were thinking about was yourself, and you still are.
Why are you quoting some stupid unproven proverb that is taken from William Shakespere the poet, when he wrote loves labor lost? It was from a PLAY and means nothing.
2006-10-18 01:31:34 · answer #8 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you need to get a dictionary! Secondly, he is too good for you. You got married b'cause you did not want to be alone?? I'm not suprised about you going thru the big 'D'.. You have cheated him and yourself. You obviously should not have or will not have or do not have a broken heart cause u never did love him.. Problem solved.
2006-10-18 01:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is able to love, you just haven't found the right one yet. Probably because you were busy being married to a guy you didn't love. Go find yourself and be alone and learn to love and accept yourself for being you. When you can truly care about yourself and have the security of knowing that it's OK to be alone. You will find him, he will just walk into your life when you're least expecting him. Don't go looking for love, let it/him find you.
2006-10-18 01:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by DB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋