My Boyfriend of a little over a month doesnt seem to really make an effort. he had been after me for a year and finally got me. everything was going pretty good. but he doesnt call at night anymore and seems to "forget" a lot. any advice?
2006-10-17 18:04:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
*sigh* i guess it's the same with everyone. they try hard to get u and after he got u he just seems to forget. dont worry too much. we won't dump u easily, he's been after u for a year. just try to pretend to "forget" him to so he knows that he can't take u for granted. or u'll become the one going after him and he'll think ull still love him no matter what he does. just make urself "worthy" and he'll learn that if he doesn't take care of u well, he'll lose u! =)
2006-10-17 18:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ganbatteru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some advice, honey.
Turn the tables for awhile, and stop being the only one giving.
Don't call him at night, no matter how tempting it might be, and you can forget things too, ya know. Give him a little taste of what he's been giving and by all means,DO NOT let him know how deep your feeling are for him. If he already knows, then just back off enough that he'll start wondering why. Letting him know you can survive without him will lure him back and he'll never know why, unless you tell him or a mouthy friend.
Good luck, sweetie, and I hope it works out the way you want it to.
2006-10-18 01:14:25 · answer #2 · answered by stargazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. See how he reacts. If he gets all defensive, then you're probably with the wrong guy. Even if parts of your relationship are great, the parts that annoy you now are likely to annoy you in the future. I've been with my boyfriend for a long time and the things that annoyed me in the beginning still get to me now sometimes. But, they're small enough that I want to stay with him. You have to decide what makes you more happy than sad and keep it, life is too short to keep letting men who are jerks dissapoint you.
Good luck! Talk it out!
2006-10-18 01:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by Nervous Nelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the heat in a relationship dies down a little bit after awhile, but as long as you cans till talk and feel comfortable with him and still get that feeling that you never want to be without him that you got at the beginning then you're doing fine. Maybe you should ask him why he 'forgets' alot.
2006-10-18 01:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was after you for sex and you gave in, well it is over then. But if you mean by got you as a girlfriend and then he lost interest, then it is important that you know that some guys get more of a kick in chasing than they do in catching.... sort of like an ego trip...
2006-10-18 01:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that part of the attraction to you was in the chase. It's kinda like cat & mouse. He caught you and toyed with you and now he's bored. I'd say he's ready to move on, ask him if he wants to end it or "remember" why he persued you in the first place. Be straight forward why waste your time and his?
2006-10-18 01:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly you need to investigate!I don't mean come at him sideways but ask questions.If this continues maybe you need to either heat up your come ons or there's always more fish in the sea.Let him fly on by and do your own thing!
2006-10-18 01:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well does he work? maybe he comes home really tired and just passes out. If not, maybe he is trying to distance himself from you so that if and when he leaves you will not be so dependant on him for things.
In other words, he might abe trying to take the cowards way out of the relationship..
2006-10-18 01:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thrill is gone...Some people like to chase, it took him a year to catch you, now who knows where his head is at....Dont wait around for him, dont wait for him to call...If he sees that your going on, not bothering to nother with him, he may come around...
2006-10-18 01:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch him the thrill of the chase is gone for him or do the same play hard to get again
2006-10-18 01:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by mexibettyboop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋