Lately he won't even try and we've gone from three to four times a week to maybe once a week. He's really busy at work but I thought sex took priority in a man's brain. Please don't tell me how I can get his attention back, just tell me WHY this might be happening.
2006-10-17 17:56:01 · 20 answers · asked by We2Angels 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He could be stressed at work and tired. That saps a man's interest in sex anytime. Plus if he's always the one initiating sex then maybe he wants you to take over for a while, you could try it and rather than wait for him to get interested...it shouldn't be about who initiatied it...it should be about if you both are still enjoying it. I would suggest that you give him some good massages, talk to him about his stress if you want to and just support him. This is why its happening.
2006-10-17 20:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi... I'm sorry you're struggling and i had a bit of an issue like this with my guy too. Not unlike you, i'm attractive and also older than you - 55. I talked to my guy about this and at first he was defensive. He said he is "not a machine". I was compassionate and kind even so. I let him know i was lonely and missed the closeness and asked him if we could just try some love play and being close in bed, and if it lead to intercourse it does. Well, we are working at it, i am attentive to him, tell him how much i care for him and i assert loving actions and affectionate actions during the day -- stop to hug or kiss him, etc. I don't overdo it, but i practice kindness with him. It seems to have worked. He loves sex but i think he's lazy? He's also 53, so of course, his testosterone levels aren't what they used to be, but he still gets night time and morning erections and also random ones, so he's still capable... and i'm sure your guy is too! I'm sending best wishes... You ARE ATTRACTIVE and LOVELY!
2016-03-28 13:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him? Have you tried initiating? If he is really busy at work, that may be the answer. Does he seem interested the one time a week you do have sex? Just because it's on their minds all the time doesn't mean they always have the energy to do what they are thinking. Tell him you noticed a difference and see if there is anything you can do to help. And if you aren't initiating at all, jump him.
2006-10-17 18:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by C. V. C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be biological. If he is over stressed, or under nourished, his libido could be waning. There are psychological problems like adult onset depression. Also, he may be starting to experience what alot of men do as they get into thier 30's and 40's. Weak and infrequent erection which will definitely affect his sex drive. The slow onset of erectile dysfunction can be caused by many medical issues such as diabeties, etc. The main thing to do is to talk it over while he is relaxed, maybe over a glass of wine, and even talk about maybe getting a physical by a MD. Hope this helps, it did for me!
2006-10-17 18:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by RamsGod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work related stress will cause it
if you demand he might feel that no mater how often he can,t satisfy you
a man likes sex as a reward for being good if he dose not have to earn it why bother
the older a man gets and the more woman he sometimes he looses respect therefor interest
and once or twice a week is normal
2006-10-17 18:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having to many and stress of work load were make someone to tired to go for it. Machine need to stop so does man need to rest.
If I am not wrong you seen to be high and like to enjoy it. Right?
Why don't you try on him instead of you waiting for him, you should make the more and see what the out-come.
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2006-10-17 18:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by shellman8888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine doesn't initiate much either (going on 12 yrs of marriage) and he's usually asleep on the couch by 9:30pm.....we're down to 1-2 times a month. I'd say your guy is probably just tired and stressed from work. I wouldn't worry too much......
2006-10-17 18:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by chnchita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he working long hours, more than 40 a week? If so, he's probably tired...let the man sleep and have sex on the weekends!
2006-10-17 17:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's exhausted from working so much or/and his hormones are out of whack. Has he gained alot of weight and doesn't feel sexy anymore? I doubt it's an affair since men usually feel bad and try to cover up by initiating more sex. Try talking to him, maybe he'll tell you.
2006-10-17 18:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called boredom darling, love still there but sex is number 40 priorities.
2006-10-17 18:00:37 · answer #10 · answered by cohoness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋