I have recently just admitted to myself that I am gay, but I am married to a gorgeous woman... How do I tell her that she's not exactly what I need?
2006-10-17 17:41:37 · 24 answers · asked by Josh C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Walk in with a dildo up your *** and say,"Honey,guess what?" I have no idea. Good luck!
2006-10-17 17:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kellie W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should be a surprising story, yet it seems to be happening more often these days. As long as you are completely honest with her, the two of you will get through this ok. I have seen many talk shows covering stories like this. Many men say that they are surprised by their wife's reaction to their news of being gay. Many of the wifes say that they are not as betrayed as they are saddened by losing their spouse and life as they've known it to be. You and your wife will most likely mourn the loss of your marriage, and hopefully be able to continue a lifetime friendship one day. Of course you can't expect this to happen overnight, it will take time to adjust to the news. I'm sure she will be devestated at first, but once she realizes that this is about you, and it's as if you are leaving her because you don't love her anymore, she will be more willing to be sympathetic to you and possibly even feel a little relief if she had any clues during your marriage. Good luck, I know this must be very difficult for you, and I'm sure it will be just as difficult for your wife and family. Take care of you. We only get one shot at this thing we call life. I hope you both find happiness along the journey.
2006-10-18 01:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no gay in this world,so don't ever think that you are a gay,you are just different from the others so just forget about gay and live with the gorgeous woman you are talking about.
2006-10-18 00:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by hpz ftw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Admit to yourself that you're a bisexual and continue with this woman. She'll be completely devastated by this. Do you really want to divorce her, get into gay bars and pursue a possible childless, spouse less life with gay bashing thrown in for fun? Are you sure that you want to continue this way? Get marriage counselling, tell your wife that you are having 'gay tendencies' rather than "I'm gay" and get counselling so that you can continue with your marriage rather than ruin both your life and hers.
2006-10-18 01:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see what her looks have to do with it. Except. That Maybe. You are kidding yourself. It's not so much that you think your gay. But. Maybe. Just maybe. You feel just a little substandard and you feel your friends accept you for who you are and she's soooo pretty and well liked that you just might, might mind you, feel a little inadequate. Well. if I'm wrong then shoot me and hang me on a wall. But. If its possible I'm hitting close to home. Then. Buck up old bean. Be the man she fell in love with. That's not only who she wants, it's also who you really are.
2006-10-18 00:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell her because she deserves to know what is going on and you deserve to live the life that will make you happy even if it does not include her. Just tell her so that she can deal with this because she will be very hurt by it. Just try and be there for her because she will need someone to lean on
2006-10-18 00:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your wife best,and no matter how you tell her, shock, will be what you need to prepare her and yourself for.So, what can you do to to help yourselves along? You must have some friends and family you can confide in, seek support for yourself as well as for your wife. Show her your still the man that she knows you for because that has'nt changed. You 're finally honest with yourself, be honest to her. But please build that supportive foundation before you do. Good Luck.
2006-10-18 01:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by ladyvincicode 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call me 5406044009 I'm married and gay too.
2006-10-18 00:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by whatever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is thebest policy. The only way to do it is to just tell her. She has to know the whole truth. And maybe you can still be best friends like will and grace.
2006-10-18 00:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kathy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. It's her life too and she deserves to know what she has to deal with and the decisions she needs to make.
2006-10-18 00:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by max 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it right away, quickly and explain all. Make sure she goes to the dr. to be checked for HIV/AIDS and various and sundry STDs. Consider that your parting gift for her.
2006-10-18 08:52:23 · answer #11 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋