This is really bad, I went to my Doctor today and the male nurse that has been my nurse for years hit on me. He gave me his number, offered me to go out with him sometime. He's really sweet and cute.....but....I'm married. My husband and I are very opposite, it feels like we are together just because we are used to it. Not to add my parents LOVE him...I swear more than me at times. What do I do...part of me says walk away from the nurse, the other part of me says go for it, have some fun.
2006-10-17 17:37:35 · 14 answers · asked by pinkie_me76 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please don't date while you're married. That is a recipe for disaster.
2006-10-17 17:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away from the nurse. There's no need to be a complete idiot in this life. Concentrate your energy on your marriage instead, get counselling if you want to, I think you're taking your sweet husband for granted and you'll lose everything if you have this affair. It will be dumbest and most stupid thing you've ever done in your entire life. Are you having realistic expectations in your marriage, do you treat your husband fairly and just because you're comfortable...is that wrong? Parents generally don't like their children's spouses all that much because they think their children deserve more...but if your parents love you, then you must have a great guy. Do you really want to get divorced, go through all the hassle of dating and being lonely and being used and being rejected and looking for the perfect partner...only to not find him and end up a bag lady with dozens of cats for company?! That's the kind of future a lot of women end up with who don't stay in what was otherwise a good marriage! So think hard before you make the biggest mistake of your life and walk away from the nurse, not from yourself. Plus you can see how great principles he has that he's hitting on a married woman, that means he'll cheat on you later on too!
2006-10-18 01:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never urge you to cheat on your husband...first of all. The fact that you would say you and your husband are together cause your "used to it" lets me know you are not happy in this relationship. If you love him even just one bit you will figure out how to tell him that you might want some space. It's horrible to say it like that but- considering the circumstances, I don't know about your relationship and don't want to sound rude but- have enough respect for the man to tell him. If you end up staying there are probably only 3 things that could happen.
A.you will be a faithful, unhappy wife.
B.you will end up cheating anyway
C.you will eventually end up telling him how you feel, and leaving anyway.
However some people like the excitement of sneakin around....but me personally, I think that makes for a person having bad morals. I know how you feel believe me- if this nurse really likes you he can wait til you figure all this stuff out. Another good thing if you and the nurse end up working he will know that you are a good woman and he can trust you. Makes for no worry, no guilt, and feelings being less hurt. Good luck seriously.
*Your parents will love YOU regardless...they'll get over it if you decide to leave
2006-10-18 00:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by katie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, this is nothing but trouble. First of all, having a nurse, in his proffession, hit on you? No offense, but what makes you think he hasn't done this with a million other women?
I am sorry if you are in pain over your marriage. That must be difficult for you. However, I think you need to confront the situation head on, and however painful it is, you need to talk to your husband. If you no longer love him, I mean, truly love him in the way that he and you both deserve, you may want to consider a seperationg or divorce...if that's too much to think about, I think you at least need to have a talk about your marriage.
Once you have talked to your husband, and figure out where your feelings lie, and where your marriage lies, and when you have moved on from any pain you have experienced, then I would say you could confront a situation like this. But I really think you need to communicate with your husband - hiding away from the problem won't make it go away. Just my opinion though.
Good luck
2006-10-18 00:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by lavender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
report the scum... to your doctor. He should not even be a nurse acting like that. You are married...you have a husband. My husband and I are totally opposite ( he rides a harley and I hate motorcycles) and yet we have so much fun together. I would never cheapen my self with another male. Opposite is alot more exciting than being married to the same type of person as you are.
2006-10-18 00:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgrandmaof3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away from nurse.....don't contribute to the decline in morality. talk your feelings out with your husband. maybe he feels the same way? you don't have to be harsh bringing it up. but if ever you loved him at all, you owe him the respect of being honest wtih him and not cheating on him. You may think the nurse could be exciting, but more often than not, people break up their marriages thinking someone more exciting is out there and after its too late, they realize the grass is always greener and their life was pretty great before they messed it up wth cheating...
2006-10-18 00:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by foreverdazzlingyou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is sacred and should be treated as such. You formed a commitment for life and need to adhere to it. Unless it is something that is dangerous to you or your children.
Marriages are ups and downs. In my opinion, you should put your energy into asking(yahoo answers) how to reconnected with your husband rather than whether to cheat. Find out ways to revitalize your marriage not looking how to get out.
Cheating would be the easy way out. You should reflect on your commitment and see if it is really worth walking away from or WORSE YET, CHEATING!!! Ask yourself: Have I done all I could?
2006-10-18 03:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing good will come from this. For all you know, that male nurse may be giving out his number to alot of other women.
2006-10-18 00:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw the number away without memorizing it.Don't make excuses about your husband and you being different,just so you can see this guy.Remember,you are married.That is something that can last a life time,this other thing will last for a brief moment and will cause you and your husband problems.Don't do it.
2006-10-18 01:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROW UP...
You shouldn't have gotten married if you're going to act like that...
And go get a divorce, for the sake of the guy. Because quite frankly, it sounds like you're not out of your skank-phase, so don't go passing around STD's to the guy who is being faithful.
2006-10-18 01:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out on a friendly dat at first and if you have more in common with the nurse than with your husband than maybe it is time to do some evaluating in you life.
2006-10-18 00:40:53 · answer #11 · answered by crazeebitch2005 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋