why i feel i dont enjoy my day, feeling empty. Bout ok?

Question

I have good grades, non alcochol problems or drugs... i have a lot of friends thx god, a good family. And im not looking for a girlfriend.. bout every day. i go to bed. and i think i miss something. I feel really alone. even when im with my friends or family. I am "the best friend" fo 30000 friends... bout i keep feeling lonely.. why is that is KILLING ME!

Answer 1

I really empathize with you.

My school years are far behind me now. My home life was a little different, though; and I lived in the middle of nowhere; and while everyone seemed to at least like me, I had few people I would have called 'close friends.'

Sometimes our environment (home, school, etc.) puts us in a position where we can feel alone because we ARE alone; but I think some people simply experience more loneliness than others because of how they are made. They need a really deep relationship in order to find satisfaction, but are never quite able to find it.

Sometimes the loneliness is part of the physical growing up in adolescence and young adulthood, and once the growing process stops and things settle down, and you get established in life, things improve. I hope that you are one of those cases.

For me, I've been married for a number of years, have great kids, and I have my own circle of friends who have proven themselves to me time and again -- so I know I am loved. But it still doesn't make the loneliness go away. It is just something I must deal with and learn how to accept, without letting it dictate all of my choices.

Someone suggested spending some time helping others. That's always a good thing to do. Giving yourself to others doesn't necessarily make the pain go away, but it offers fulfillment on some levels and also gets your head out of your own problems for a bit. I know if I sit and just think about feeling lonely, that usually just intensifies things. (And that's all in addition to the fact that someone else is being helped.)

I don't know if you are a spiritual person. For me, I equate the emptiness I am feeling with my search for God and meaning -- He always seems just out of reach, so while I feel like I am getting closer and closer to 'grasping things' and finally being fully connected, I never quite lock in... and the emptiness stays there, driving me to keep seeking.

(So the loneliness is a bad thing when you do nothing with it, but if you use it to motivate yourself in your search for God and higher purpose, then it becomes a positive thing in some ways.)

Many people, I think, experience the feelings that you are experiencing, so ironically you are not alone at all. :)

More seriously, while your feelings suggest you are alone, it sounds like you have people who love you, friends who care about you, and a good healthy life in many ways. Your head is probably able to tell your heart that you are actually doing okay, even if you feel otherwise.

Meanwhile, I would use the loneliness as much as you can to motivate yourself to connect with other people and really get to know them, spend time with them, and give your gifts and talents to help them.

Loneliness can also be used to trigger great works of art, as a means of communicating what you're feeling; so if you have artistic inclinations (or even if you have not developed any skills), perhaps playing music or writing in a journal will help you deal with the feelings and explore what's going on in a way that can partially satisfy you.

These are just a few ideas that might give you a starting place. Exploring them, you might figure out some other things that will personally work for you.

Take care.

Answer 2

You shouldn't think of this as changing yourself, you should think of this as an opportunity to improve yourself. Everyone has to do some chores around the house at some point, so find a day or two to take time off from your friends and spend it with your family. Help your mom out with some dishes and sweep or mop the first floor. Ask your mom if she needs help with something. Your mom probably works a lot, (your dad, too!) so she deserves the help after a long day's work. You probably heard this a million times but I know it's true in this situation: She wants the best for you. If she thinks that you need to be around the family more and help around the house, you should probably do it. :-)

Answer 3

I have been there, friend! Only when I started volunteering and getting involved in my community with special projects and charities did It stop-
Funny when you are concentrating on those less fortunate than you your world looks so much brighter...
Try habitate for humanity- the local shelter- Or helping with younger kids at Sunday school-
maybe visit a elderly community-

Good luck and remember- you are here for a reason go out and find it!

Answer 4

When you come to the edge of all the light you know,
and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown,
faith is knowing one of two things will happen:
There will be something solid to stand on,
or you will be taught how to fly.
Barbara J. Winter

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Out deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson

Answer 5

Maybe you are having a little bit of depression. You can be depressed when everything is going well, but still feel like something isn't right. Or, maybe there is something missing in your life and you aren't in touch with it. You can't be happy all the time. Good Luck!

Answer 6

answer to u r problem is u r thinking metally that u r not happy for u self ,even though u r having every thing but u r not wholeheartedly keeping u r mind in that .try to feel that u r enjoying . think positively if u every time think that i am feelingalone it wont solve u try to feel that u have every thing. feeling is more imp.what everthat gives u more happythink of that then u wont feel that u r alone.

Answer 7

You need a passion in your life that you can pursue. What are you interested in? Do you like sports? Maybe art; video gaming; working on cars;Computers? Find your passion and strive to fulfill it and you will no longer feel empty. You will be too busy working at something that you really love. Try it!

Answer 8

perfect. so what if you feel down in the dumps...enjoy your boredom...understand that it comes only to people with a philosophic bend. look at it from different angles. a funny angle. a frightening angle. a sober, mathematical angle...soon it will be just another problem...i find it already funny...the 'best friend' to 30000 friends is all alone...lol

Answer 9

inside deep you may feel like they don't appreciate you you will have a seance of loneliness so now you need someone to talk to just about you and nothing else

Answer 10

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