have you ever been completly forgotten?

Question

i was young, probably about ten or so, and after baseball practice, which i didnt wanna be at anyway, i was left for about a eternity, must of been five hours, alone atop of the jungle gym just waiting while the sun went down. Thank god a good sumaritian took me home, where i was greeted with a "i didnt even notice you were gone" or something that i take that way. please beat that, i might feel better.

Answer 1

When I was 16, my mother told me " your dad and I are getting a divorce....me, your brother and sister are going to a friends to live for a while....got any idea where you're going?"

I didn't see them again for about 5 years...is that considered forgotten???

Answer 2

I don't have a story similiar to yours, so I can't beat it in that way. Still, all of us have been let down or forgotten by others in some way in our lives.

I don't know how seriously you have taken this incident of being so slighted, but try not to take it too seriously. In a way its hard to imagine how this could have happened, but ten-year-olds do do their own thing more than, say, a four-year-old would. Parents occasional get extremely stressed out or sick to the point where they may actually do this type of thing. They could feel absolutely horrified that they did this type of thing but not want to let their child see how horrified they really are because they don't want to create the impression in the child that this slight was worse than it really was.

A friend once described bad things in life as coming sometimes like a big blob of frosting being globbed on a cake in one place all at once and sometimes being more thinly spread but over the whole cake (with the cake being time or one's life and the frosting representing troubles or bad things or slights).

Your story is like one of the big blobs of frosting happening once. Many people have that thin layer of frosting the has covered the whole cake.

If your mother (or father or other caretaker or relative) had noticed you weren't there they would have panicked beyond belief and had the police out looking for you, etc. If they just kind of assumed you were playing somewhere, it may not have been that they forgot you; they just forgot that you weren't picked up and off playing somewhere around the house or yard. There's a difference between forgetting you and forgetting the simple act of picking you up and getting you back home.

Finally, if there's any chance that your mother or other person had a really serious problem (beyond stressed-out absentmindedness) then they are the ones who messed up in the situation of your incident. It was not a reflection of you.

Hope - if you do take being forgotten at all seriously - some of this has made you feel a little better.

Answer 3

When I was five my dad said stay at the school gate I will pick you up, but he completely forgot and didn't think of it till I was missing from the dinner table! They all got in a taxi in the city and drove off without me when I was about eight. The list goes on. I make sure I never forget my kid. Maybe that is why I hate people being late.

Answer 4

Maybe you need to talk this out with your parent so you can move on. It may not have been as bad as it seems to you now. Its hard to realize our parents aren't perfect and to let go of some of the stuff they did or didn't do, but best for you to do it. I could tell you some crappy stuff said to me as a kid that would probably top your being completely forgotten, but we all have our stories. It really doesn't seem fair that our parents have so much influence on us...and then we get to be parents.

Answer 5

I don't know if this will beat yours but when I was at the hospital once for routine x-rays the nurse 'misplaced' me. They were calling my name in the waiting room and I was sitting in the dressing room.

Answer 6

No, my parents loved me.

Answer 7

I was never forgoten

Answer 8

No, never.