I am adopted & trying to find out about my birth parents health. I have my original birth cert - what to next

Question

I was born in New York City and have my mother's name on the original birth certificate. I tried calling the city of New York - but that was just a recorded message going through 20 different menu options. After about 1 year, I still have not heard anything from them - not that I ever expected to.

Answer 1

If you are over 18 you can write your mom and / or dad a letter -take it to the social security office and they will forward it to them - they know where everyone is at
This is how I found my birth mom
make sure you have your mom's madden name and if you have it a birth date and / or year
They can tell you right then and there is they are still living also
E-mail me if you have any questions

Answer 2

Try going through the agency from whom your adoptive parents got you. You may need to be 18 or older in order to have the records opened to you, or your adoptive parents may have to obtain the records.

If you have your mother's maiden name, you could do a google search to find what high school she attended, if she has married, and where she might be now. You may not be able to find out her or your birth father's medical records on your own, however. Those are sealed under the privacy laws and only the person they are for can release those records. But if you find her or your birth father, they can tell you what you need to know.

I'm sorry about NYC and it's bureaucracy and how long it's taken to hear back from them, but frankly, that's typical. You might get better results actually visiting the appropriate office and filling out the correct forms. Do you know anybody who has connections to someone who works at City Hall? Remember, sometimes it's not what you know but who you know when you need to get something like this done.

There are also adoption support groups for people who need or want to find out about their birth parents. Do a google search for them.

This is important....please remember that your birth mom and dad might not want to be contacted for any reason at all. There were reasons you were offered for adoption. You may be opening an emotional can of worms, ruining reputations, and causing people to face or remember parts of their lives they'd rather forget. Be sensitive and gentle. Not all reunions go well.

But you may also discover sets of grandparents and siblings you never knew about and who will love and accept you because you are a missing part of their lives.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I assume it has your fathers name on the certificate to, you could try checking the marriage entries (if they married) and that certificate would give you more info possibly your mothers maiden name and maybe an address maybe even more info like the mothers fathers name and his job etc (they do in the UK & Oz) if this is possible you could then try checking out any address that you come up with and hope that there is someone local to the address that knows the family etc.
Guess this is the cheapest way unless you prepared to pay for a detective - i just remembered that the mormons have search able data bases i think there site is www.familysearch.org/

Answer 4

You need to know who handled your adoption...was it catholic charities.....social services?

Searching via BC like that can be tough....if she married, name would be different.

Once you find out you can write that agency and ask for non-ident. information. That may take a few months. But usually you get some info that can help.

There are hundreds of birth registries online...you can search by either date of city you were born in.

Goodluck...if you need any help,feel free to email me.