When do you just accept it? Or decide to give up the friendship for a relationship which includes sex?
2006-10-17 16:42:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you never accept it.you get help and when that doesn't work you get out.
2006-10-17 16:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by STORMIROSEBUD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that standing at the crossroads, it's seems like every path leads to a steep fall.
I suppose it's different for everyone. It really depends on the reasons why your marriage is sexless. Is the desire, or lack of, mutual? Are you still friends? Could either of you accept and live with a love that is not lust? Can either of you bear to share? Could you accept that there are some ways you can't satisfy each other, and that you [both] need to be in a relationship with someone who can satisfy those needs.
I'm sure you are used to many of the other benefits of marriage, and it's hard to give those up. unfortunately, no relationship is perfect. Really ask yourself, and your spouse, questions to get a good grasp of where you are.
There really isn't a good reason to be unhappy, but happiness doesn't always come with a change of scenery-- try and work with what you got.
2006-10-17 16:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by micke 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man living in a sexless marriage. Wanna have sex?
2006-10-17 17:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by whatever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that's worry-unfastened except there is a few form of actual ailment or is on some style of medicine that reduces libido. intercourse is considerable and needs to be fullfilled yet whilst it quite is unable to be fullfilled then it needs to be regarded at. If there isn't something incorrect with your husband which you recognize of then you definately could desire to talk to him in a distinctive way. rather of asserting Why do not we've intercourse anymore? Why can not you have it? do not you like me or discover me appealing etc... attempt drawing close it in a distinctive way. you are able to say which you're occupied along with his prostrate gland and advise he get it regarded at. If he asks why you are able to then say for the reason which you recognize that prostrate issues intrude with penile function and because he's having a concern having intercourse with you it must be something severe and upload which you in simple terms are actually not interior the temper in basic terms in contact for his well being. I additionally advise you stop soliciting for intercourse and exhibiting him you opt for it. sometimes human beings use intercourse as a weapon and in the event that they comprehend it quite is needed the different they're going to take it away. in case you teach it quite is not considerable and you do not care then possibly he will ask your self what's up with you. it ought to take a mutually as yet i could attempt this standard in the past suggesting prostate issues. i could attempt this for no less than a month no greater suitable than 2 then advise the surgeon. If there isn't something bodily incorrect with him and he's on no drugs, is he depressed? Is there a exceptional form of rigidity? 9 years is an prolonged time so my guess is the two it quite is actual, he's utilising it as a weapon or god forbid getting it else the place and if so you're able to desire to be certain. are you able to stay with him? Are there inconsistancies in his thoughts and the place abouts? issues to envision.
2016-11-23 17:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sucks but mine might as well be freaking sexless. i have been married 10 years. whenever i bring up the fact that we don't have sex enough he blames it on me. he only initiates it when i can't or am otherwise unable to. like when my period is really heavy or if i am ill. and he will just turn everything around on me. so now i just take it when i can get it. other times i just use my toys. =)
2006-10-17 16:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very sorry to read so much sorrow in here. Wish I could help in this. But the fact is that you are responsible for what is happening to you. And more importantly you are the only one who can improve things. You may have attempted earlier and failed. But remember 'Impossible is nothing'.
Learn from a spider.
2006-10-17 17:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
(raises hand)
My husband is so terrible at turning me on, that if I don't turn myself on, things never heat up. I'm looking into divorce soon. I can't live like this.
2006-10-17 17:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to live like that you should just take it because after all it is yours and he should want to satisfy you. you dont deserve to live like that and he may not be all stressed about the situation because he can always please himself whenever he feels the need.
2006-10-17 16:46:19 · answer #8 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your age. As you get older, having two incomes is very important, as well as health insurance, possessons, etc.
2006-10-17 16:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My wife lives in one because I'd rather die than touch her. She's made my life a living hell for 27 years. I used to burn to touch her and she'd deny me. I say let her rot she deserves to suffer as much as I did. maybe your guy feels like I do?
2006-10-17 16:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋