For ladies only: what do women find attractive about men?

Question

Is it a physical thing? A mental thing? Both? I know that the 'perceived' image of the ideal WOMAN is the big breasted blonde, but that bores me to death. I personally don't like that image. It's an artificial media thing that has been perpetuated BY the media. Give me the 'imperfections' anytime. As a male, I love diversity; it's what makes the world go round. I'm being honest here. I love the attractiveness of a woman's femininity: something that can't be defined or quantified. Bearing that in mind, what is the thing that women find in men that is attractive. Give me the details. Be honest. Phew!

Answer 1

I agree with you on the perceived image of men and women. I don't care for the big muscles and chiseled face. I am more attracted to someones personality. Don't get me wrong, I do like someone who looks nice but that is not all that matters to me. I am attracted to men because they are completely opposite of women. I am one of the many women who loves the chase and the differences that we have. I may get frustrated but I do appreciate that we think differently and I wouldn't want someone who agrees with everything I have to say.

Answer 2

I'll be honest. I personally look for the whole package. He doesn't have to be drop dead gorgeous but yes, he has to be somewhat attractive. That doesn't mean he has to be 6'2, 180 lbs. with gorgeous features. He can be short, even a bit pudgy! I just have to be attracted to something about him whether it be peircing blue eyes or nice buns. He just can't have a big nose, bad skin, or bad teeth which are all fixable. As far as the personality department, I'm attracted to a sensitive, loving man. He has to love animals which is an ultimate turn-on for me. He should be good in the sack and has to be atleast average size. I like guys that are somewhat athletic and I know most girls find this important. Money isn't always a turn on, I mean the guy should be financially responsible and stable. Girls that only look for rich guys are just shallow. Then there are the little things that make any girls heart melt. It can be the way he smiles at you, when he tells you he loves you and means it, being spontatneously romantic (roses for no reason), and the list goes on. Oh, intellegence and a sense of humor are also major turn ons. My advice is to accentuate your positive physical features and work on those that are so-so realizing you don't have to be perfect to have an attractive, caring woman to fall for you. Also girls don't like guys that talk too much about themselves and ignore them when they have something they want to discuss. Be compassionate. I think most women would agree with most of what I have to say. Good luck. By the way, I am an attractive, busty blond but I'm anything but boring! I'm very sweet and shy.

Answer 3

I'm 27..I find that most men my age are still messing around and unable to settle down. Men who are older tend to want a commitment and are more financially stable. They are attractive, but I think it has to do with maturity than how they look. Oh, and the older the man the more seXually eXperienced he is and that is a big turn on! So, it all depends on the woman and what she is looking for. If I was able to find a man that was my age and has his act together then I would go for him! As for the grey hair...I don't find it very appealing!

Answer 4

Both. When it comes to appearance I love guys that have dark skin, long dark hair, and dark eyes . . . but it's the personality that will keep me interested. Someone who's usually quiet and mysterious, but once you get to know them, is completely off the wall, with a twisted sense of humor, but deeply caring and protective of those he loves. Someone who has courage enough to tell me when something is wrong with the relationship so we can fix it or part ways, rather than resort to lying and cheating. If I met someone like that, even if I wasn't that I attracted to them, they would eventually win me over. I've only had two boyfriends and I wasn't that physically attracted to them, but they both could make laugh, and it didn't matter. But if I have another boyfriend, I would like to be attracted him. =)

I hope no one thinks I'm full of it, but I wouldn't want a guy who was rich and over six feet tall. I'm not a gold digger and that kind of lifestyle just isn't for me. And I'm barely over 5 feet tall, so I would probably have to jump to kiss him, or he would break his back to kiss me. So that wouldn't work. He does have to taller than me, but only a little taller. ^_^

Answer 5

I love what a man has between his ears. I love a man who is good in conversation, who has manners, is confident without being arrogant and has a positive self-image. Physically, any man can make himself attractive, finding his own style and going with it. I do not like power drinkers, druggies or adrenalin junkies. Admire men who are devoted to their careers but take time to enjoy life. I love masculinity in men, the smell of male colognes. The firm feel of his hand when walking and holding hands. I love a hearty man's laugh. I agree with you when you say diversity is important. There are so many interesting and attractive men who do not fit the GQ mold who are fascinating.

Answer 6

It doesn't matter what they look like, its the initial connection/spark what draws you to them and makes you what to know more. The eyes have to be nice, worm welcoming and kind eyes. If a guy has evil eyes i dont care how much i like him, i wont go there! Also height is a must, i will not date anybody my height or less. The guy has to be taller.
The personality is the biggest factor, and what keeps you, after the initial attraction/spark. Confidence within themselves is a big turn on, but not arrogance or thinking he is god's gift. Other turn ons are; his smell (strange but true) the way he speaks to you and the way he treats you.

Answer 7

Me as a woman?.... what do I find attractive in a man? Wow......
Personally, the FIRST think I see in a man is the face. I think it's almost everything. I doesn't matter if the body is not perfect, but the face, the way he watch, his eyes, more than everything.
It doesn't matter if at the beginning I think the face is not cute, I happened to like men a few months after I first met them, because of their personality. I got to know them very deeply as friends or partners as university, and the impression changes, believe me!
The appearance is the first impression, always, specially nowadays, in this world managed by the media, as you say; but at the end, the true personality (or insight?) wins! :)

See you!!

PD: sorry If I have any "spelling mistakes" or something like that, i have to improve my English jeje :P

Answer 8

A sense of humor is #1 on my list. Intelligence is also very attractive. Being trustworthy and believable is attractive, as well. There are physical aspects that appeal to me, but most of them are not nearly as important as these other characteristics.

Answer 9

The things I find attractive about men are, not been afraid to show your emotions, never been afraid to cry, knowing how to laugh and to make others laugh, sensitivity, been caring, sharing, loving, kind and honest, having their own opinions and believing in their principals and morals, not been a doormat for people to walk over or wipe their feet on, having the courage of your convictions and just been you.

Answer 10

When I see a good looking guy, I think 'Hm.. ok he's good looking' but that doesn't mean I am sexually attracted to him. I think for women it takes more than good looks to really be attracted to a man.

I like a man who is naturally honest, has good manners!, intelligent, sincere, strong (physically, mentally, spiritually) and most importantly has a strong faith in religion (I'm a Muslim). To me all these attributes are sexy :) If a man has all the good looks in the world, but not possess these traits I wouldn't find him that attractive.

But of course the physical appearance play a role in attraction. For me, he has to dress well and not be sloppy! Be quite tall. And who can resist a nice set of chompers :D? (it reflects his hygiene habits)