ok my husband and i have been so nice and took in a family there both 19 and ther daughter is almost 2 well he has a drinking problem and one night he got so angry and went kinda crazy and slit his wrist and throat i told my husband i wont them out there destoring our apartment and it's so stressful but my husband wont tell tehm to leave he wants to help but i us. Everytime we live the guy calls to ask were we are who he will walk in on us when we are trying to have alone time because he is BORED. I dont know hat to do HELP ME. And also i want him to go to get help but if i do that he will be in jail becaus ei found out about 20 mintues ago he has a warent fro his arrest. What do i do. my husband wont listen to waht i have to say about it.
2006-10-17 16:20:23 · 21 answers · asked by nicole51304 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its stressing me out so much i cry myself to self.
2006-10-17 16:21:51 · update #1
its stressing me out so much i cry myself to sleep
2006-10-17 16:22:26 · update #2
okay i have told him they go or i stay with his dad till they leave but i cant bring myself to leave my husband also the guy has no job and they eat lll are food
2006-10-17 16:51:47 · update #3
call the police (anonymously) and report his behavior. if not for your own sanity, for the protection of his daughter and wife. you can also call cps (child protection services), either way, no one will ever know who made the call....you should not have to go through this and shame on your husband for not caring enough about you to be a man and take care of this situation.....good luck
oh, the phone number for cps is in the phone directory, i think in the yellow pages...find it for the child's sake.....and yours....
2006-10-17 16:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not make sense… why would your husband not care if a man cut his wrist and throat in your home? Does the man have something on your husband? You cannot help this man and his family… do what you need to do to get them out. Do you have somewhere you can go and stay until the man and his family are gone? Tell your husband you are leaving and once he has gotten them to all move out, you will come back home. This is a terrible situation… Hang in there!
2006-10-17 23:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your husband isnt concerned about his own family , then maybe you need to turn this guy in than he will be arrested. While he is in jail, tell the wife or whatever she is she is going to have to get her things and leave. Then change the locks. Also let the cops know that this guy has a drinking problem and ask them watch your place for a few days. Thats what I would do!! Keep Safe..
2006-10-17 23:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by Hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then pack up their stuff for them and kick ALL OF THEM out. No need for drama unless you bring it! And if your husband doesn't listen to you, you had problems with that in the beginning. You don't want to call the cops on him for you don't want to be the bad guy. Well hunny sorry to tell you, you'll have to be one of these days, especially when it comes to your children. Tough love is what it's called. Good luck sweetie! I've been in your position and it does suck, but your husband needs to back you all of the way or not... Now the choice is yours!
2006-10-18 00:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by clover_t21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you and/or your husband are doctors or clergy and qualified to handle suicidal people I would have to tell you to direct this man to the nearest psych ward and tell the girl to take her baby and go home to her parents for them to help her. Since there is a warrant out for his arrest maybe you should let the police know he is there so they can handle the situation for you.
It is noble of your husband to want to help them but not the wisest choice he can make for his own family who needs to be #1 on his priority list. If this guy is suicidal you don't know that he won't flip and kill you guys one day. It might have to come down to telling your husband to choose between them or you. You don't need that kind of stress.
2006-10-17 23:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if your husband won't listen to you about something so serious that is obviously affecting your relationship, then you need to have a serious talk with him. Let him know that this is unacceptable; and if push comes to shove, honestly, I would leave him to deal with the situation alone. Maybe that will knock some sense into him. I have been going through a similar situation with my husband, but I've been very firm with him and we're getting through it. So that's my advise to you: hold your ground and let him know it's bothering you. If he won't listen, then you should consider what your options are.
2006-10-17 23:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by *Jessy* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, tell your hubby to wake up, if you dont know them why should you both put up with what he is doing, yes you were both very kind to give them a home with you BUT there is nothing you can do when the family dosent seem grateful some people are just ignorant & not bothered that you have put yourselves out to help them,
SO, you want them out & i agree with you because they are ungrateful, so get them out even if it means you privately phone the police & tell them where he is, its ok hubbys making these arrangements but they are usually at work or a couch potatoe & its left to us women to sort everything out, good luck i hope you manage to sort it out,
2006-10-17 23:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your husband so determined to help out this people who you both don't even know?!?!
First call the cops. Then tell your husband. Then tell the girl, she & the baby can stay but her husband cannot come back to your home.
2006-10-17 23:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by Rin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice of you to offer these people help...it really is. That says a lott about your character. But if its starting to have a negative effect on your life to the point where you are crying...its too much for you now. You have to ask yourself, are you really helping them, or are you enabling them? Perhaps its time for them to take some responsibility. Sounds like with the drinking, suicide attempts, and legal stuff that you are in WAY over your head. Tell them how you are feeling, just be honest. Tell them its too much for you, and they need more help than you can give. They need serious substance abuse/family counseling with a professional and perhaps he needs to turn himself in and get things back on track with his family. Schedule a family meeting and tell them they need to start making plans to help themselves.
2006-10-17 23:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is this guy doing to help himself. It is good to want to help someone but if he isn't even willing to help himself then your just spinning your wheels anyway.
Your husband needs to put the safety of his family first. You could keep telling him how you feel or you could put your foot down and tell him to choose between you or them.
Or you could secretly turn him into the police for his warrant.
Either way he is not your responsibility and it sounds like he needs more help than you can give him anyway.
2006-10-17 23:36:22 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋