Why is child support so unfair? It is completly discriminate towards the father. I know first hand.?

Question

My husband added his ex girl friend to his bank account when they broke up so that his daughter would never go with out. It was an innocent mistake he was trying to do the right thing. After she cleaned out his life savings she reported to child support that she received nothing, (that is fraud) and he was sent a bill for $15,000.00. Upon showing bank documentations he was told that they were irrelevent. He is not allowed custody because of this back owed amount and was orderd to pay $1200.00/mo. My children and I were forced to live in our car in the parking lot at the beach. When I went to welfar I was told my husband made too much money. This girl has her parents raising her children while she lives it up for free, on my kids money. I have written congress, I have requested a lower amount and they gave him $527per mo. He had to quit his job in San Diego, and move in with Satan (mother in law) We are unable to rebuild what was destroyed, I don't have $527/mo for my two children.

God I hate stupid ******* people! no wonder you women are treated like whores!!!

I don't want welfar you ignorant **** head! My husband makes more than enouph money to support his wife and children! but when he is garnished unfairly on false claims they owe a duty to make sure what they are doing is right.

Answer 1

the law is always sexist towards the male. because a woman can do no wrong.... yeah right

Answer 2

You know what you re a dicruntled jealous woman. It is not fraud that she went to get child support,or told them that she had recieved nothing. It is his fault for putting her on his bank account,is he stupid? If he had a previous order for child support then he shouldn't have put her on the account.He will not be denied custody due to noe paying his child support.If she is an unfit mother or if you and him think that then you all need to file a order for a custody hearing.She is not living it up for free on your kids money,how dare you say that.Your husband has a child with her so the money she gets she can use for groceries,bills and whatever she wants because everything that she does is for the child as well. $527 is not even enough to pay for supporting a child so you have a serious problem.If you are so worried then why don't you get a job? You are making me so sick right now,you are a evil b****.Congress probably laughed at your request because it is pure nonsense. It is just ridiculous that you would use the excuse that he can't get custody because he owes support,obviously the courts think she is the better parent.Just by listening to your mouth i would never allow you around my child,so a smart judge would let her keep her child.You sound like you may be jealous and may even be abusive towards his other child.Grow up woman.

Answer 3

I completely agree that some cases in the child support system is unfair. I have custody of my stepchildren and their mother is ordered to pay child support, which might I add she does not do. We have been to court about 15 times in the last 3 years and she still does not pay. In my case she will come up with every excuse in the world why she can't. She is either always dying or to sick. There is no credible information that she supplies the court to back up this information. Now if this were a man he would be in jail right now. You are completely right in what you say the court system does favor women in any proceedings that they do. It really doesnt matter if it is against the man or the women she will always come out on top. I have written my local congressmen and gone to the head of social services. There is never any answers to back these issues. The only advice I can give you is stay strong and continue to fight. You need to try to come up with proof that you will provide better housing and be a better parent. Justice will prevail sometime. It will take forever. But what do you have to lose? Don't listen to losers put you down, Untill they have walked a mile in your shoes. Good luck in everything you try. Never give up!

Answer 4

I am sorry to say this but he made a mistake putting her on his bank accout. I know he wants to do the right thing and take care of his children. There should have been some legal agreement with him paying a certain amount in child support. Of course she was going to clean out his bank account, she was mad because they were not together and was not going to make his life a living h***. I know someone right now going through a similar situation where he agreed to pay her a certain amount in child support every month. She got greedy and wanted more money and she got what she wanted, more money!

Answer 5

"Why is child support so unfair?"

The quick answer to your question is "It isn't usually. And when it is, it's because of the specific instances of the case and not the system overall."

I feel for you, but there are two problems that are giving you heartache over this. First, you don't understand how the child support system works-- although you probably think you do. Second, you are mixing unrelated issues together and deciding that the unfairness of one is also the unfairness of the other. Let's look separately at these issues:

1) Your husband needs to take his ex-girlfriend to court for stealing his money. If he can show a judge that she took the money, he should be able to get a judgment for the amount to enforce against her. He would then use that judgment to offset any child support arrearage he owes to her by that same amount.

2) Your husband needs to make child support payments either through the court or through a child support enforcement agency. Period. Any other payment method will not be accurately recorded and easily proven in court. That your husband is in arrears for child support is not a negative reflection on the child support system. But it does tend to indicate that your husband didn't make a number of support payments as instructed to by the court.

3) Your husband needs to be able to show that the child belongs with him because it's in her best interests. Any other consideration-- like who's going to pay child support-- shouldn't be part of the calculation in figuring out what's best for kids. You should realize that having your husband's first child live with you and your children might not actually be in the best interests of your husband's first child where she is now well cared for by the ex-girlfriend's parents.

4) Your unfortunate circumstances are not the problem of your husband's first child and is not actually a negative reflection of the child support system. That child deserves to be supported commensurate with the standard of living her father and mother can provide. That means your husband has to pay child support. And how much he pays is dependent on how much he makes. It's not because he's a man. It's because he's the non-custodial parent.

5) That you are unable to collect welfare due to your husband's income is not a negative reflection on the child support system. Your and your husband's children deserve to be supported commensurate with what you and he can provide. If you are unemployed and have no family that can help, then your children will not receive the same level of support that your husband's first child receives where the mother of that child has her family help care for her. That isn't the fault of the child support system.

6) Your husband can go back to court and seek a reduction to his child support payments if he can't afford to support his first family and his second family. He will still, however, probably have to pay an amount of support to his first family that is a statutory percentage-- somewhere around 20% for one child-- of his net income. That leaves 80% for his second family. And he'll have to pay his child support arrearage-- hopefully by having a portion of it offset by the amount of money the ex-girlfriend stole from his bank account.

[This is not legal advice. You should consult a licensed attorney-at-law for legal advice or representation before making decisions that may affect your legal rights.]

Answer 6

You're not being honest. Visitation cannot be withheld in the state of California because of owed child support. Your driver license can be suspended and your IRS checks can be taken. Secondly, in CA the maximum he could be garnished in a check is 25%. Thirdly, congress has no authority to lower your child support payments as this is a County civil matter. Lastly, if you and your man are married and have other dependents the courts will take this into account when ordering a child support payment. Something about your whole story stinks to high heaven. Why come in here and ask for advice and then blatently lie in your question. You make no sense whatsoever. My favorite is that you wrote to Congress and they reduced your child support payments. Hilarious.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

It sounds as if your husband didn't do things correctly and got screwed for it. He should have had child support set up through the court to begin with and not put her on his account. He could have opened a new account with limited resources. Generally, child support does not discriminate against the father. I receive child support and in my state for one child I get 20% of his income. Pretty much all my income goes to raising my child, and he only has to pay 20%. How does that discriminate against the father? Do you have a job? Or do you depend fully on your husband for your support and your children? If you don't have a job, I suggest you get one.

Answer 9

Child support is in no way unfair, the chid deserves to be supported. however, what has happened is unfair. what he should have done was kept receipts of what he was spending on his child and how he was supporting the child. I guess now he has learned this lesson, unfortunately the hard way. Good luck and God bless

Answer 10

You want to talk unfair child support laws...my ex was a captain in the Airforce, i made 5 dollars an hour he took me to court for child support, and won, and collected after he kicked the boys out and they were living else where and i was not told just so he could keep getting the money. when someone called to tell me i stopped paying him and i went to jail........hows that

Answer 11

I completely agree. I am one of the few dads who actually get paid child support. sounds great. but if my income goes up i get less if hers goes up i have to take her to court and pay to get it adjusted that is fare NOT.