last 6 years he was my life. The only thing I had done was loved him. He loved me a lot. But now he is with another. I couldn't realize this. I want to foget him. The only boy I saw on this earth was he. I'm scare of my future. I couldn't love another as I loved him. I thought this will be my first & last love. But he changed my whole life. He gave me lots of Hopes. Therefore I won't fogive him. Because of his new affire he hurt me a lot. The last time he spoke, to me he told he will not marry. He will be along. I asked why? He told b'coz of the bad thing that he did to me. Also he told if I know the reason why he did like this, I feel sorry about him. Pls let me know how can I rebuilt my broken heart. I feel I coudn't love anyone else. He was love with me. But how he went with another?In this case I feel terribal with girls. For last 6 years he was my life. So I didn't think about me. So how can I live now. Happy to die. But my mother loves me alot.Why he did this to me?
2006-10-17 16:14:15 · 17 answers · asked by Krishanthi C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sweetheart. . . I am telling you this from experience. I dated the same guy for 7 years, and when we broke up i felt the same way. I lost tons of weight, i was put on antidepressants, i cried more at that time than i ever did before in my entire life.
Now it is time for you to rebuild! Get on your knees and pray to God for strength, courage, guidance, and for healing during this time. This is the time for you to learn to love yourself. It is time for you to work on you! You need to walk away from this situation with your head held high, and without a tear on your face. LET HIM GO! Dont ever let him see you cry again. You are too good for a man that would do this to you. . . This is the time for you to build your confidence and self esteem. Yes this is all easier said than done, and yes your gonna cry and feel like crap, but what you need to understand is that this will not last for ever sweetie! Now you need to focus on you.
Like i said to another young lady the other day-- Men change like the weather girl, so forget about him. There are plenty more to choose from, and the Lord will send to you the right man, a good man, when you least expect it. It has been almost 3 years since my break up, and i have now been blessed with a man who completely adores me. Things that i have never expected in life are happening since this break up. Opportunities that i never thought existed are presenting themselves. So please dont worry sweetie, it will get better, but you have to allow it. Dont allow your past to dictate your future. Be beautiful, be strong, be confident! Good Luck!
2006-10-17 16:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love ur mother, which will be more wonderful than the earlier one, she will not leave you alone, will not hate you whatever u do to her, this love will be longlasting, if you want to keep that outside , make new good friends, go for a movie or outing or a place where you will feel happy with them.... these will definitely change your mood and situations, if these couldnt work out do yoga and involve in some social works.... dont feel like die, it is not a solution.. life is there for you, if you look sad it will also look sad..if you look happy it will also look happy, forget all the past and live for you and your family..dont lose hope, read lot of comic books, cartoons, movies,etc., to change ur mood...ok take care bye
2006-10-18 00:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by K.R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you will end up your life for such a jerk then you are greater then him. Don't be a fool and get out of this depression. I know it is not that easy but at least you can try. Why ready to give your life for someone who don't care a bit for it. Think about your parents, who have given you birth and done so much for you until now. You are going to kill them too if you will do any such thing. What a beautiful gift you will give to your parents for bringing you in this world.
I know it hurts like hell when you fail in love but try to overcome it. You can't rebuild your heart only time can. Leave it and indulge yourself in some work which will keep you busy. First thing you have to do is try to forgive that guy then most of your pain would be gone. I know it is not easy but at least try. But forgiving him does not mean that you should start thinking about him again, no, once you forgive him cut him out of your life as if he was never there. It is better not to indulge in any such affair again and marry a guy with is chosen by your parents because they know what is best for us, better than us.
2006-10-17 23:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by goodbye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am sorry. I have lived that kind of life that you are describing. When I lost my wife to a massive heart attack, I wanted to commit suicide. Sometimes I still have visions of it. Plus, during my lifetime, two separate women have attempted suicide over me. So, I have seen it from all sides; so to speak. But please don't do that . . . . Yes, your mom loves you. You need to respect yourself too. I hope you will get over it. Six years is an awfully long time. If you want to chat about this in private then I will be here for you. I also have a whole host of female friends who will offer their advice as well. Suicide is definitely NOT the answer. I have lots of questions for you too but I can't post them here. Good luck & take care. I hope you do well.
2006-10-18 19:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if I fully understand your question. But what is clear is that you devoted your entire life to this relationship. This left you in a vulnerable state. I believe it's very necessary to maintain friendships with other people than our lover - in order to have balance plus to protect ourselves in case something happens to our lover - if you break up, or if he becomes ill, or in fact actually dies. That is a fact of life. So I would recommend finding a friend or friends to have as company, and to learn from this experience - what went well, and what went wrong. Then we can apply that knowledge/wisdom to our lives as we go along.
It's said "It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all". If that is so, at least you have loved.
Good luck.
2006-10-17 23:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a jerk. Trust me there is a better person out there for you. Don't look for love, just be yourself and enjoy your life. Find hobbies you enjoy and do things for yourself and for others. Forget about dating or finding the right one. Just enjoy your life. When you do this you shine the real you and then someone will come along that is attracted to the real you. Believe me when the right one comes along you will think why did I waste so much time thinking about the other one. Better to wait for the right one then to spend time grieving over the wrong one. Remember life is adventure!
2006-10-17 23:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god knows what the reason ure boyfreind has for doing this to u. but let me tell u, that dying wont help. is he the end in ure life. carry on move ahead in life. try finding a better person for ureself. dont u wanna live for ure parents. if u die its a life without any ground to walk for ure parents. why r u punishing them. what wrong did ure parents and family do to u. u got carried away in love with someone. its ure destiny which is at fault that u met a incomplete person and u went with him for 6 years. move on thats the only way out.
2006-10-18 15:47:46 · answer #7 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be cool and think about your mother who loves u a lot. He is doing wrong but you should try to forget the things. Do not contact him for a little bit and note his reactions? If he does not try to contact you as he contacted before, it means he is ready to froget you. then why should you not forget him? We should not take such type of step without consultation of our parents. You should tell about it to your mother. She can help you. Do not think about sucide. You live your life even though struggles are there. Be strong and do strongly. The God May help you !Best of luck.
2006-10-18 03:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jaggi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has some reasons for sure. It was not the right person for you just liar - sorry. You had good 6 years to keep it as good memory, and time to start searching again. Don't tell me you are the only one in pain, I'm sure I got worse - and still alive waiting for the One.
2006-10-17 23:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO MY DEAR, WHAT U SAYING IS 100% CHILDISH AND U SAY HE LOVED U A LOT, I SAY HE ONLY ACTED AS A GOOD LOVER IN FRONT OF U , B'CAUSE IF HE HAD LOVED U BY HEART THEN NO OTHER FEMALE SHOULD HAVE COME INTO HIS HEART LIKE U DO NOW.
SO SIMPLY FORGET HIM , AND START FRAMMING U R LIFE.
TAKE CARE OF U R SELF AND BEST OF LUCK FOR U R FUTURE .
2006-10-18 09:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by shakthi v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋