Well ive had 2 miscarriages and the doctor told me i couldnt get pregnant so me and my boyfriend just didnt use condoms well just recently ive been moody, crying for no reason, dramatic, tired, hungry, ive gained weight..and im not sure if i should tell him because he was devestated when i miscarried. i dont want to tell him and then miscarry again... what should i do? tell him or not?
2006-10-17 16:07:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Dont tell him anything until you know for sure
2006-10-17 16:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Oops! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should tell him that you have been feeling different Its much better to share the experience with someone you trust, Don't get either of your hopes up but its nice to have the support there because it devastated him but it also effected you. If he is there with you then it will be easier to deal with if you can deal with it together whatever the result. As you have had 2 miscarriages then if you get a positive result take it easy for the first 3 months to try and reduce the risk of another miscarriage. Also you should ask your doctor why your loosing the baby's if its because you have an incomplete cervix or if there was something wrong with the baby's. If it's an incomplete cervix the doctor can put a stitch in to close the cervix. Good luck
2006-10-17 23:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by mj_missi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont tell him yet! Wait until you are confirmed pregnant by a doc. Talk to the doc. about your miscarriages and get some info. The doc. would be able to help you find out what caused them so they can stop it this time. Whether its medicine or complete bedrest. You could also wait until 12 weeks are over, because that is your biggest miscarraige time. you shouldnt be showing yet, maybe a little bloated. Then tell him. If you would rather tell him up front make sure you give him all the details from the doc. and how they plan on helping you keep this baby. Hope that everything works out well for you!
2006-10-17 23:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find out if I WAS pregnant first, and if I was, then I would make sure the baby was healthy. THEN I'd tell him. BTW, if you keep miscarrying, I would recommend you get tested for this hormonal disorder that attacks the fetus. We have a family friend who had that, and once they put her on medicine, she was able to have a healthy pregnancy and now has two beautiful children. Hopefully that won't be the case for you, but if you keep miscarrying, I would get tested.
2006-10-17 23:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by ktbug_muw08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what I did I waited until I was 2 months before I told my partner. No need in telling him at such an early stage... because anything can happen within the first couple of months. I also think you should see another Doctor. If he told you that you couldn't get pregnant than I think he should maybe go back to Medical school...
2006-10-17 23:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him until you are sure...and then don't tell him. Let him think that you are just getting fat! Start eating alot of doughnuts and stuff..Haaa..I'm kidding.had ya going there, anyway, these folks are right,get a test and then you'll know. Then it'll be fun and you'll have a "Bunkin!" But just don't email him with the caps on and all that, you're gonna be a momma and you'll need to grow up just a lil bit..Good luck, hope all goes well
2006-10-17 23:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by HowlnWoof 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the doctor says you are, then tell him. You must because he is the father, and he will run to put that ring on your finger and marry you as soon as possible before you start showing and well before the baby is born and the two of you will be happy ever after.
2006-10-17 23:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him. you both obviously want it and are excited for the idea if it is in fact possible. being that serious i'd think he'd want to share your heart-ache or excitement asap. he'd probably want to go with you to whatever doctor(s) you need to go to see about confirming and monitoring the situation given your unfortunate history. as devastated as he was he must sense a need to support you in any way possible on the matter. my sister just had two miscarriages and my girlfriend was recently "told" that she might not be able to have kids...you could say my ideas are fresh. good luck, and a pre-emptive congrats!
2006-10-17 23:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd want to know, even if you miscarry again i'd want to be there for you. But find out for sue if you are pregnant. Dont worry him for nothing.
2006-10-17 23:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by zorro1701e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Go to the doctor's and get a blood test.
2. When you get the result, sit down and breathe.
3. Sit your bf down and open your mouth. Say, "Dude, I am pregnant.now."
Take care of yourself and your future offspring.
2006-10-17 23:10:34 · answer #10 · answered by soxrcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋