I want to be honest about my status with people, but as soon as my status went from Married to seperated (not divorced) I am getting asked out on dates. I don't want to really...I don't even really want to be seperated, it just is what it is.
I'm just curious what the "norm" is for a seperation. Is this my time to see what else is out there...or is it supposed to be a reflective time to put into your marriage?
2006-10-17 15:45:46 · 12 answers · asked by Sticky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Gee, thumbs down and good luck! Thanks chulisyo, you're a big helper.
2006-10-17 15:48:12 · update #1
I adore him by the way and we have a beautiful daughter. I just sometimes wonder if there is someone who would "fit" me better. My hub and I are total opposites. Its like Con vs Lib. We dont fight like they do, but our personalities, likes, dislikes, priorities are totally different. Again, I love him dearly, but I have no idea if it will ever work.
2006-10-17 16:01:03 · update #2
irishladsj1962 youre making me cry.
Maybe i shouldnt have asked.
I would NEVER bring a date into my daughters face, ever. I'm glad there are some smart people who think of our kids too. I can hardly look at her now, i feel so guilty for breaking up her home.
2006-10-17 16:31:21 · update #3
good luck
:D
2006-10-17 15:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It would depend on why the separation has occurred. If you still love your husband and want a second try, take your time and reflect, see what the future holds for the two of you. If either of you feels betrayed beyond redemption and are seeking for a divorce, still don't rush into dating, but having a few friends won't hurt.
2006-10-17 22:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i was briefly seperated. i thought i hated the man.
i met another. it was fun. my original guy begged me back. at first i wasnt wanting to try again, but gave in. we have a child.
iam glad now that i did!! iam more in love than ever. weve now been together 24 years!!!!wow.
weve both settled down.
if u love him& he loves u, get counciling. maybe christian.
dont give up.
if in love you can overcome anything.
iam sorry for whatever has happend.
maybe you can work it out.
but if not, take things slow. meet the right kind of people.
nothing real serious at first.
sometimes the second time around is so much better. (ive heard). now u know what you want and dont want.
dont settle.
this world is full of guys.
but sounds like u still want your man.
communicate, its the key.
god bless you!!!!
2006-10-17 22:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by grasshopper 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart this is a time that you need to sit down and reevaluate whats important to you. Do you want to fix the marriage? Or Can it be fixed, vs what he is doing as well.
You have to figure out what you want to do. Then if you decided to date you should wait untill the divorce is final so it does not get ugly and go against you in court. I do not know your situation so its hard to say really. But thats my advice to you. And for what its worth I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-17 22:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by Biker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend, it sounds like you are not getting what you need out of your relationship.
You may love this man, and been married and have a wonderful daughter. but Have you found that you are not happy. Take time to reflect on what you want, What makes you happy. Write them down and start writning all of you thoughts down. Being in a marrige does not make you happy. you have to make you happy. You do that by looking closely at what you want out of life...and pursuing what makes you happy.
Meeting other people will give you attention...is that what you are looking for...attention because your husband didnt give you enough or what you needed. you must find your own stength, and not rely on you husband to provide your happiness.Please read this poem..maybe it will inspire you to be what you need to be...A Woman of Strength
A strong woman isn't afraid of anything...
But a woman of strength shows courage in the midst of her fear...
A strong woman won't let anyone get the best of her...
But a woman of strength gives the best of herself to everyone...
A strong woman makes mistakes and avoids the same in the future...
But a woman of strength realizes life's mistakes can also be God's blessings
and capitalizes on them...
A strong woman walks sure footedly...
But a woman of strength knows God will catch her when she falls...
A strong woman wears the look of confidence on her face...
But a woman of strength wears grace..
A strong woman has faith that she is strong enough for the journey...
But a woman of strength has faith that it is in the journey
that she will become strong...
Author Unknown
2006-10-17 23:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by irishladsj1962 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT DATE
Take the high road. You will feel better about yourself if the marriage ends. Date around and you will not forgive yourself. Take it from someone who started right up after separation...you are not emotionally there. Just chill...take a cold shower and go to counseling.
2006-10-17 23:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by scerre 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say so, you could start dating. You are SEPARATED, if your husband gets jealous than maybe you too can work out your situation, and then decide if you really want to stay with your husband or new bf.
2006-10-17 22:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by ^_^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is....you need some downtime to get yourself back on track.
Also....you're not divorced and your husband could sue you for adultery if you're intimate with anyone before the divorce is final.
2006-10-17 22:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since no one yet has mentioned your daughter, I will. I don't know how old she is, but bringing another man into her life at this point could be confusing or even devastating to her. Please give her some thought & consideration!
2006-10-17 23:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by Cadmaniam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen to grasshopper she hit the nail on the head get out there and see what your missing and if your husband comes back go for it
2006-10-17 23:16:03 · answer #10 · answered by John D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the "would-be suitors" that you need space. There is no need to rush into the dating world just yet.
2006-10-17 22:47:40 · answer #11 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋