My husband of 1 1/2 years have known each other for 6 years. We were the best of friends when we decided to marry. We are both in our 40's and this is his 1st marriage and my 3rd. My first marriage ended up in divorce because he started doing drugs, my 2nd marriage ended up in divorce because I found out he was cheating. I am very much in love with my husband, but ever since I left my emplyment (good paying) because of health issues, it seems that my husband stays away. His work situation has been slow the past year because of the weather conditions, so we are having some financial struggles, but nothing serious. I know in my heart that he would not be cheating on me as he is not that type of person. So what could it be? Could a person tire of someone only after 1 1/2 years when they are doing nothing wrong? He does not go to bars drinking or anything like that. Am I just being paranoid becuase of the past?
2006-10-17 15:37:19 · 11 answers · asked by kimmer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's better to communicate with your husband about how u feel instead of asking us here as the most we can give u are guesses. It could be that he's just stressed out about your financial situation and is becoming distant in thought. Don't be afraid to speak to him about it.
2006-10-17 15:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand what you mean by "stays away". Does he ignore you? Does he push you away? Do you feel nonexistent when you're around him? If so, there is a high chance that he may be drifting apart from you.
But generally, It may be that he's just at a high stress level at the moment. He's probably been "staying away" from you because he needs his time alone to think thoroughly about things. Especially with the issues that you've stated above.
So don't worry too much about it just yet. Just give him his space for a while. If he continues to stay away, then there could possibly be a problem. Just talk to him, tell him how you feel. Also, ask him what's wrong. I know he should be the one comforting you, but just try your best to work things out with him.
2006-10-17 16:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be something you are doing to push your spouses away. Have you had any counseling to figure out what your own part was in the first two divorces? Yes, one cheated (why?); and the other did drugs (why?). It takes two to tango, my mother always said. Figure out what you are doing in this marriage that makes your husband stay away. Maybe it's just your health issues. Does he feel you aren't well enough for "playtime"? Maybe if you got a part-time job of any kind to help with family finances, he'd respect you more. Maybe he's worried about the finances and is depressed. I think you need marriage counseling, either with your husband or by yourself. You need to get him to talk to you and tell you what he's feeling. Don't let anything come between you that you can't talk about. This is how to save your marriage.
2006-10-17 15:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people's emotions are very closely tied to their sense of worth which is very closely tied to their financial status. If he is very worried about the money, that could cause the trouble you are talking about. People often get divorced because of money troubles. You need to work on that together and figure out a way to get out of the hole, or it could really mean trouble.
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2006-10-17 15:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it must be an ego ingredient. She's finding over all of the time to work out once you're finding at HER. She knows of you nevertheless like her and that i will guess she nevertheless likes the attention you supply her nevertheless she will not do something approximately it. If she quite had to work out you lower back, she could make a ingredient of chatting with you. And if she quite DOES opt for to talk to you yet hasn't, i would not worry along with her till she matures and realizes she has to grant greater effectual tricks approximately her approachability.
2016-11-23 16:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys are probably jsut stressed from the finicial situation, that type of stuff can definitely put a damper on the situation, you guys need to have a serious sit down and talk about everything adn work it all out and re establish your love for each, let him knwo how you feel and hold nothing back and work on findin new sources of income together
2006-10-17 15:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by fatalbert167 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a lot of situations, but you will not know unless you ask him. Do not accuse, but ask.
He could feel pressured to take care of you and himself since you are unable to work. If you are able to work a PT or less stressful job it may take a load off of his shoulders.
Don't assume-talk to your husband.
2006-10-17 15:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he frustrated because his work is slow ,your health problem and the financial struggles. He stress. He either talking about his problems to someone else or he feels he cant talk to you. So i suggest you talk to him.
2006-10-17 15:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by PURE SEDUCTION 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you being whiny? Perhaps you should focus on joy, sunshine, spiritual love and work on making your marriage a fun exciting experience. Whiny, depending on him to support you is maybe not what you appeared to be. You sold yourself as a healthy employed women.
2006-10-17 15:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel it is his own inadequacies that he is feeling right now. The financial strain is making his self esteem low right now. Give him time and he will come around, do not push the subject and he will come to you when he is ready. Trust me on this one!
2006-10-17 15:42:01 · answer #10 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋