i told this girl i like her just today. i posted a question about 3 days ago about the same girl wether or not i should tell her. but i did and she said that she loves to hang out wit me and all but she's not ready to commit herself to someone else just yet. she told me she's still not over her last relationship. she doesnt like that guy anymore but i think she's still overwhelmed from her last relationship. and she said it wouldnt be fair to me if she were to get into it and not give me 100% focus. wat do i do now? still hang around wit her or move on and realize that she isnt going to happen. like if i hang out wit her, she'll still let me hold her hand and all that. so wat is that? i want a few days to think before i do something so just seein wat u guys think of that.
2006-10-17 15:36:43 · 9 answers · asked by sunny bhai 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just be a good friend and talk to her just try not to spend too much time with her. I have the same problem with a guy I like. He's not over his old gf and I still talk to him and hang out but I keep in mind that we're just friends and don't get emotionally involved, or physically involved. I'm sure in time you'll find that you and her are better friends anyways. Friends last longer (in my eyes anyways):)
2006-10-17 15:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by aluminum22rocker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wat she's telling u is 100% truthful.
See, as women, when we're in a relationship with somebody that we have strong feelings for, we give our ALL. It takes a lot out of us, too...and it's no good to love when ur lovin' alone. When the relationships that we're in for so long END, we r worn out, and it hurts too bad to even THINK about starting another one, cuz we're afraid of getting burned again.
I advise u to just go on with ur life. Keep hanging out with her...don't let anything change. Keep being the same friend that u were to her before, and show that u respect her feelings. Be there 4 her if she needs a shoulder to cry on, but don't push anything. Like holding hands...that's a romantic thing, and when a guy holds our hand, we feel like he has a lot of feelings for us. So, in the predictament that she's in, it's best for u not to do such a thing right now. It will more than likely push her away from u...she'll feel like u don't care about wat she told u and that ur pressuring her 2 like u. So, just let her make the first moves...but wait 'til she's ready.
2006-10-17 22:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she said she's not interested in a relationship it could spell trouble 4 u. If she wants the "friends with benefits" relationship then GET OUT NOW! It will only hurt u in the long run. On the flip side, if she genuinely wants 2 b friends, then b a friend 2 her, with no expectations on ur part.
2006-10-17 22:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by identity dreamer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-17 22:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just keep being her friend. Give her some time, you never know what could happen. Also give yourself some time to think it all over and deal with it.
2006-10-17 22:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her get over the ex first be compassionate and be there for her ..just don't push yourself on her she may never forgive you >>> also let her decide whats up after she is done grieving
2006-10-17 22:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by yvette b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm. she is letting you know she is not interested in you. y would you keep hurting yourself hanging around her.
2006-10-17 22:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by Lourdes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can give it time if you reallllllly like her, but it kinda sounds like a brush off
2006-10-17 22:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by spike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be a friend to her.
2006-10-17 22:55:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋