How do you let go when you've had enough?

Question

When you reach your breaking point with someone, how do you let go? When you know letting go is the right thing to do, how do you go on without them? Especially if it someone you love, who has done you wrong?

Answer 1

if they cheated on you than there is no going back into it, it hurts to let go, and face the unknown alone, but it's better than the pain involved if you stay with them. its also an unknown if you stay with them.we can still love someone and still know when it is time to let go, you know your limits and breaking point, some don't. life is way too short to live it with a person who betrayed your love and trust, atleast you know to go, some suffer years with a dream that never materializes,some are in denial that they were ever mistreated, but atleast your smart enough to know. you just go on, you pray to god for guidance in times like this,you surround yourself around trusted friends and family. and most of all you take care of yourself, and love yourself. at least you have enough respect for yourself to know when to move on so you are really one of the lucky ones.

Answer 2

If you've truly reached your breaking point=====you want out, in the same way a drowning woman wants oxygen. You are sooooo
sick of the same old bullshi*. If you've reached your breaking point, you are so depleted emotionally, that you feel like a dry well,and you know with every fiber of your being, that the only option is to end it. How do you go on? You take it one day at a time. Believe in yourself. You deserve better. Use this website to get over the rough patches. There are a lot of women who have been there, myself included, who have made it through to the other side. You will see that in time, that you made the right decision, and you will be stronger for having done so. Good luck!

Answer 3

You answered the question yourself.........."has done you WRONG" You let go and start your life without this person. As you said you reached your breaking point so obviously you have put up with enough to bring you to the point of no return. Im not saying it is easy to let go but you must remind yourself that this person is toxic for you and your well being. Break free and find happiness :)

Answer 4

Simple...weigh the individuals good points against the bad points. In the case of men. Infidelity, drunkenness, narcotics and no hope for steady, gainful or prolonged employment.....dump him. Same with females.

One infidelity. Some computer antics. Better talk 'em out. It'll be difficult and may take some time and watching...but not looking like you're watching...and maybe it'll bear fruit.

Try civil communication. If one party either throws an old offense up in your face like hating his/her mother or the time you got drunk at your sister's wedding or if a past infidelity that was found and forgiven in your past comes up...then you can try and negotiate again or consider the situation breaking down and toss in the towel.
Work at it. If everything...and I mean everything else fails...no one can say you were the one that never tried to salvage the marriage/relationship.

Answer 5

Honey, I think you are asking questions that you honestly don't want the answer to. You know how to let go....you leave. But something tells me that is not what you are ready to do. You love this person and sure this person may have done you a terrible wrong, but that doesn't necessarily mean its the end. It could just be your wake up call that things aren't right in your situation and it's time to fix them. All too often in this day and age, people are too proud to accept a little failure and it's just easier to throw in the towel and walk away. In doing that, not only do we bitter ourselves, but we never allow ourselves to grasp the concept of working through serious problems that we will all encounter in life. In the old days, they use to say "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger". There is alot of truth to that. And in order to get over the hurt, we first must realize why the wrong doing occurred. Once we do that, it's easier for us to see if it's worth our time to stick it out or to just simply let go and move past it. I know this sounds rather clinical, but without upsetting you more than you are, I think this question is something you need to put more thought into. We can't tell you how to let go when it appears your heart isn't ready. Only you are going to know when that time comes...and from what I've read....I don't think you are there yet. I think that whatever you have with this person is something special and I think you need to stop listening to those around you and do what is right for you sweetie. We aren't the ones who have to live with your decision, you do.

When we make decisions with our hearts, rather than our minds, we are seldom ever wrong. I wish you luck honey....and be patient, you'll figure this out.

Answer 6

thats a tough question I've been battling with my self for over a year and still have a hard time because every time I feel strong enough to let go I end up having this pain in my heart and a question in my head (what If? ) But I can say this that each day I wake up I am assured that it is a different day and the lord helped me get this far and I believe that in trusting him alone we will get through till tommorrow and so on and on untill he makes a change i do nothing.

Answer 7

from personal experience it is hard. congratulations on realizing your boundaries. it will be hard but you can get through it make sure that you have some positive supports avaiable to you at all times so your not tempted to run back to what is comfortable. think of this time as a new chapter to your life. you decide what you want to happen and follow your gut trust your instincts because if you dont it could get worse. above all believe in yourself and do whats best for you. despite what he says because most people will try to make you stay.

Answer 8

At the end of the rope?When you have had enough, you just fall off the end of the rope, instead of letting go.

Answer 9

If you mean they cheated on you then just look at it as they let go first. Its still hard for the first while...but trust me it gets better.