I've been with my girlfriend for a year now, and we are very active sexually. As much as we both enjoy it, I'm afraid of our relationship will become all about sex. For example, when she comes and visits me at college, our visits consist of sex, go get food, and then more sex.
I don't want to remove sex from our relationship, as I believe that we have healthy sex lives and are continuing to enjoy it. I'm just concerned about sex taking complete control of our relationship.
2006-10-17 15:33:01 · 8 answers · asked by SatanicYoda 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
People seem to think that because I'm asking this question, I'm gay. I would just like to point out that this is not the case, and homophobes need not answer this question, since you're wallowing in your insecurity.
2006-10-17 15:42:09 · update #1
Our sex life is awesome, and I have no complaints about it. Only a concern that the relationship with only be about sex.
2006-10-17 15:43:38 · update #2
That's a touchy subject, and I can COMPLETELY understand where ur comin' from.
First, let me say that sex is actually a very important part of a relationship. Most people have a NEED for it, and if they're not getting it with the one they're with, they'll go somewhere else just to satisfy that craving.
However, as a female, I can say that it's best to talk to ur girlfriend about this. Let me tell u, she will be COMPLETELY flattered that u care that much about the strength of ur relationship to have such a concern. Usually, it's the women feeling like that...this will show her even more how much u love her.
So, just talk to her...take her to dinner and converse. Then, tell her, "U know, baby...u really mean a lot to me, and I love u so much. Now, don't get me wrong, I LOVE the love that we make, but I wanted to make sure that u know that's not what my love is all about." Trust me...she'll be speechless and googley eyed...lol...she'll probably make love to u REAL good that nite too!
2006-10-17 15:39:01 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's interesting that this question is coming from a guy. And that is a good thing. Your girlfriend is a lucky gal. Have you talked to her about this at all? Because she is probably thinking that is what you want from her all the time, the sex I mean. It is a great thing that you have such active sex lives, but you are right to worry. In order for a relationship to really be going somewhere there needs to be much more than just sex, which I'm sure that there is, you just need to just relinquish it in your relationship, I think. Is there a possibility of agreeing to a no sex break, say for a week straight. Do all the other things that you enjoy doing together like going for walks, dinners, movies, museums, but no intercourse of any kind. If you guys can do that for a week, then I'm sure that you'll be back on track again. Just remember to be honest with her about everything. Best of luck to you both!
2006-10-17 15:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
properly, enable's see. Are you adult males happy once you spend time at the same time watching a action picture or going bowling or some thing? Or does it look as though he' s waiting for the sport to be over so which you adult males can pass to his abode? on the telephone, is it on the grounds which you adult males are drained, or is it additionally interior the midst of the day the place you are able to communicate approximately your day, or what's on your thoughts? Does he no longer call because of the fact he's purely no longer a telephone person or purely because of the fact he's conscious you adult males won't get to make love? ask your self those questions and that i think of you are able to desire to have your answer. call another sturdy issues approximately your courting different than intercourse. The memories, some interior jokes, and all of the failings approximately your existence which you share with one yet another. Is he constantly there to help you whilst some thing is incorrect? Or does he assist you and then attempt to start intercourse?
2016-10-02 10:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start slowing down on sex, watch a movie or go out to dinner, slowly step away. But y stop a good thing?? I mean if the sex is good, enjoy it while you can
2006-10-17 15:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lourdes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that a dude is asking this question is scary, but thats beside the point, the reason yall have sex every time you see each other is because you probably never really get to see each other, so dont be up tight about it, relax, and just enjoy your time together
2006-10-17 15:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by fatalbert167 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and the girlfriend should pick up a hobbie or sports get out of the house
2006-10-17 15:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by plop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THOUGHT THAT WAS EVERY GUYS DREAM? NAH, TRY MAKING AN INITIATIVE TO DO OTHER THINGS BESIDE THE DIRTY.
2006-10-17 15:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by i'm smart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Gay face it.
2006-10-17 15:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by burrgump 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋