my mom has been doing this new job for about a month now..and since then, her boss has been completely rude and mean to her. this woman is like..a prison guard. never has she given so much as a smile to my mom or even said good morning. she constantly insults her on how she does her job (she's new, so she makes little mistakes like accidently losing an email, which was sent to her again on request, no problem) and just yells her head off. other than that, the woman is like..silently cursing at her. my mom comes home upset and tired and now has to see a doctor for anti-depressants. our whole family is going insane cause its a lot for them to take on too.. problem is, though she's quickly going insane, if she quits or gets fired (which is likely), we'll be..basically.. screwed. no money= no apartment (not that we live in versailles as it is.) whoever can give some advice on what to do.. whether its something different that my mom should do or say..anything. if you have any advice-please.
2006-10-17 15:25:23 · 9 answers · asked by oy vey 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
To err is human and your mom should not put up with this treatment if her boss is like that maybe your mom can look for another job when her shift ends, I know it is tough but she should keep sending out her resume, because it is not worth her health, and maybe she can speak to her co workers for help. Is there a union where she works if so she should approach a representative, or speak to someone in human resources, no one has the right to treat anyone in that way.
If her boss is yelling chances are someone else has heard her do this and it usually is not tolerated by employers.
2006-10-17 15:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there;
It sounds like your mom is between two bad places, the need to provide for you all and the need to quit.
As starting any new job comes with its own set of stress levels so will starting a new job under a tyrant.
What you can do to make it easier and lift some of the burden off your mom is to find a way to earn some cash for household expenses or add to the nest egg fund.
That way the job loss of the major bread winner will not hurt as much.
What your mom can do if there is no HR department is look around within the company for position she can transfer into.
If that is not an option then she can hang onto the one she has while shopping her skills to other companies. The knowledge that she can get out of there will give her a positive direction to move in and take some of the pain of having to face an ogre each day a bit more tolerable.
It is far more easier to land in a life boat when you are jumping from a sinking boat than to try and find a life boat when you are in heavy seas like you and your mom would be if she were to loose the job now.
Look for ways you can lesson the expenses (cost of living) where you are now. There are plenty of ways to tighten up until you have some financially security. Put in place a plan to save even if its only the pocket change everyone has. Trust me! I started tossing my pocket change in a big water jug when my son was born back in 1983. By the end of the year there was well over $300.00 to start a bank account for him. Not much eh?
By the time he was old enough to go to college, $13,000.00 waiting for him (not including the interest earned from the bank either).
Pocket change can mean: gas for the car, milk and lunch money, phone bill, or electric each month. It adds up! Do the right thing for your mom for now and you will all be happier in the long run.
2006-10-17 15:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by snowelprd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling, I can relate to you so well. She does not want to be your mother. She is not EQUIPPED to be. I used to feel underappreciated by my family as well especially compared to my friends I loved my family so much. I felt like I was making a losing investment all my life growing up because I loved people who weren't equipped of loving me back. I would suggest you to move in with your father. You can't envision a new life because you're accustomed to this one. The pain/discomfort will only be temporary, but the rewards will be sweet. Extreme situations demand extreme measures. You'll be much better off living with your father and a stepmother who seems to have more love to give you than your own mother. Let me tell you something, learning to receive love right now when you're still young is crucial to you developing normal relationships later on. Make the move, you'll realize the value in it later.
2016-05-21 22:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she needs to break the chick's nose. no that not a good thing. she should be looking for another job. no one deserves verbal and mental abuse under any circumstances. i think i would rather flip burgers or run a register than take that kind of crud from my boss. your mama's boss may under a lot pf presure, that still doesnt make it ok. i say she needs to be in the market for a new job on her lunch break ( if she gets one). maybe they boss is testing how much your mama can take. it isnt much if she is on anti-depressants after one month. obviously the job is wrong for her. i dont mean to be disrespectful and i apologise for it.
~peace~
2006-10-17 15:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by East Texan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like your Mom has to make some hard decisions.
She obviously knows how to find work - as she located her present job.
Might be time to start looking again in her spare time.
I hope things go well for you all.
Does she have a respected Mentor she can turn to for advice?
2006-10-17 15:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by Smilin' Fred 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs to go to the human resources department at her company. They will help her and protect her. By law, her manager cannot fire her for going to HR. I doubt that your mother is the only one this woman is abusing, so HR probably needs to put out something at her office reminding all employees of appropriate work behavior. This is illegal and your mother is protected by many laws in the US.
Have her go to HR.
2006-10-17 15:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go talk to this boss and tell her lay off your mother
meanwhile tell your mother to secretely look for another job ,it cant be the only thing around and life is to short to live it in misary
2006-10-17 15:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whine... Whine.... Whine .. if she hates her job and her boss it's simple..just QUIT and move on.. This is a big world..lots of jobs out there ..
2006-10-17 17:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by MeInUSA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she has caliber and potential say her to leave this job and look for another opportunity.
2006-10-17 15:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by kanhaiya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋