Am I going the wrong way in this relationship?

Question

Im in the beginnings of starting a relationship with somebody who ive been talking to for almost 3weeks now. We both seem to enjoy each other's company, not to mention when I usually talk on the phone to other people, im readay to get off the phone in like, 5 minutes. but with them, we can talk for HOURS. They just recently said to me that they want to make me theirs. And I certainly wouldnt object to that, cuz ive been feeling them, for the longest now. What im worried about and what I told them also is that in the past ive been done wrong in many relationships. Ive been heartbroken, and depressed to the point where I wouldnt eat, or sleep. Im so insecure these days, to the point where I cant go a day without hearin their voice. And I be afraid to call because I feel like i may be bothering them. And when they tell me that there is no problem at all, i find myself askin again if there is with like anything. I hate being insecure. But they keep tellin me, that they want me and only me.

Answer 1

Well I don't understand this "they" talk.Look if your dealing with a member of the opposite sex.If you take all the precautions now,you'll save yourself heaps of heartache later Or delay temporarily a joyous relationship.You can enjoy each others company by talking and sharing and just being natural.Have fun,explore,date,dare and socialise.If there's to be a next step it'll happen

Answer 2

i am wondering how old u are - u sound young and thats ok - but it may explain part of how ur feelin - Its normal to think about past relationships that u have gotten hurt in...exp when starting a new one. I had a ex cheat on me and that was over 2 nyrs ago and even now I get insecure about it - but i know my man now is good and loves me - its hard to trust again after getting hurt so badly - no one will be able to convince u to trust if ur not ready - but dont let it ruin ur chance to be happy...I heard once that u dont know love until u surrender to it - and that love is a risk - sometimes u will get hurt-hell crushed...it may happen over and over and over but u cant give up on it - cause when u finally find the one for u - it will be because of the pain and leasons u learned from before - and it will be the most wonderful feeling in the world - everything we go through makes us stronger and teaches us something...think of ur situation like that...u have been hurt in the past and that is making u insecure in the present but dont let it make u insecure - let it make u stronger and smarter - instead of being afraid to get hurt learn from ur past mistakes ....ur insecuity will eventually drive this person away...u need to stop it -trust me i went through it - i lost a good man bc i let the past keep me from enjoying my present- this person wants to be in ur life - believe in that - until u have reason not to..
good luck