she says it hurts her when we do it ,,WE have seen a doctor about it ,,we have discussed it +and argued bout it ,,and still we do not seem to have a solution,,,we have tried lubricating jellies and oils and still it hurts her ,,WE been together now since 1972 ,,any help would be appreciated
2006-10-17 14:48:28 · 17 answers · asked by ®™d_w_nz™® 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dump the biotch
2006-10-17 14:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
If the doctor has said there is nothing physically wrong with your wife you need to consider a few things.
Your wife is at a time in her life when the hormones change or have changed in a woman. Things are more dry, if you get what I'm saying. Biologically speaking she has "closed shop" so her body is not going to feel the same or react the same about sex. Arguing about it and pressuring her to do it is only making it worse, I can promise you that. Now not only is she in pain but she is having to deal with dissapointing the love of her life for the past 34 years! So she gets to deal with guilt too and probably worry and concern you will leave her or cheat on her. Now there's even more pressure to perform when the time is at hand.
Instead of making the problem all your wife's let's consider a few more options: Do you still romance her? Do you still date her? Do you believe in foreplay? Do you know that foreplay starts BEFORE you get into bed? Do something unexpected for her. Clean the house. Call her just to say "hi". Open the car door for her. Give her a kiss with nothing more expected, just because you love her. Make her feel appreciated. Make her feel like a sexual being again and she will respond likewise.
2006-10-17 15:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope she isn't making excuses? Is there some one else? If he complaints are real then you need to find out. Where does she hurt? How many kids do you have? Were they diificult deliveries for her? Did she fall on her bum or other trauma? How long has this pain been going on? She may have dislocated her coccyx(tailbone) that causes pain in the nerves around her vagina and anus. Other pains associated with this is lower back and legs. She should discuss the possiblity with her doctor, and get traetment for whatever it is.
2006-10-17 15:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of foreplay is being used?
What kind of hormonal issues is she dealing with?
Is she stressed at work? at Home?
What kind of medications is she on?
Any childhood or adult issues that are coming back to irritate or haunt her?
Suggest she use a dildo or vibrator to get loosened up and wet. If you are into porn, maybe a porn movie to get her engine warmed up. If you are open minded, maybe she would like a three way with another gal or guy?
Does she like women instead?
There are tons of things that could be the reason.
Good luck and *hugs* to you. Think positively, keep your chin up and things will work out one way or another.
2006-10-17 14:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you must be huge... have you tried sex toys on her to loosen her up? (that sounds vulgar but its true..it works!) i guess just keep trying different things and be adventurous, open and honest with her, maybe you can get out of het the true reasons behind her reluctance, a lot of sexual problems can be psychological..if the problem IS medical you should keep on her to seek treatment as there could be a more serious underlying problem.. good luck :)
2006-10-17 14:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by buttons c 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What did the doc say? Anything wrong? It's been 34 years...maybe (not to scare you) there is something seriously medically wrong (like endometriosis). Feel free to email.
2006-10-17 14:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by moonbaby3504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my well if the doctors can't help and you have tried other ways then I'd say take to slow and see what happens.
2006-10-17 14:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did the doctor say was wrong? If you don't mind me asking?
2006-10-17 14:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by Justwondering 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-17 14:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by brainfreeze007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would see another doctor.
2006-10-17 15:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋