well am young.....and ive just experienced my first real love.Although its like a great thing to go through when you come out of it , it stings.Im still in my teens and me and this guy were so close ,we neva went two days without speaking.And then in mid july we finished.We promised to be friends and we did for a while and although it hurt ,i would rather be his friend than nothing to him.So the friend thing was working out until i went on holiday and he had a new girlfriend,my best friend.yeah ,of course it was awkward but what was i ament to do about it.Well i tried my hardest to put my brave face on it , but i couldnt do it.We fell out after an arguement one night.Now were not talking and i have finally admtted to myself that i love him and didnt know waht to do.What am i meant to do? He was my best friend....and now its like were strangers.Can you get over your first true love? And if you can ......How?
2006-10-17 14:43:27 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Everyone has said alot of good things. It is a really hard thing to do. I think the best thing you can do is surround yourself with friends and realise that it wasn't meant to be. It cuts even deeper that not only is he with someone else but it's your friend, and that makes it alot harder. I'm really sorry about that. I don't know if I could have dealt with that, you're incredibly strong. Just know that it wasn't meant to be and that eventually you will meet someone who you're meant to be with. Be happy on your own, and revel in being free to do what you want to do, when you want and with whom you want. You're not constrained anymore by what someone else wants. I am currently in this happy place and am going overseas for a year. It'll get better. You will always remember him and probably always love him, but you'll fall out of love with him and be able to move on. I promise, but it hurts and it takes a while. Be strong.
2006-10-17 15:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna_OZ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You stop dreaming about that first perfect love and making it to be more than it really is. Your first true love hurts if it ends. Your second true love hurts just as bad if it doesn't last. Any time you lose a true love it is painful. You work your way through it and let it rest. You move forward with your life and your mind. It's not easy but when you meet your next true love one of these days you will find that the first love is nothing more than a pleasant memory of the good times. Don't spend time dwelling on a relationship that didn't work. It takes both parties wanting the same thing for it to last. If he wanted to move on, that is his right to do. Make new friends and keep busy doing things that are fun and let it go a little at a time.
2006-10-17 22:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by sistervoodoo2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is hard, maybe even the hardest thing you will ever do. It will take time, pain, tears, and complete and utter sadness, but it can be done. You will have to believe in yourself, more than ever. This is a list or things you can do to help you get over the one that got away:
Get a puppy.
Surround yourself with friends.
Take long walks.
Go shopping.
Get on the market for a new guy friend.
Wear your sexiest clothes because it makes you feel good.
Be wild, crazy, and fun.
Just plain be yourself.
Don't let depression get you down.
Take a drive (if your old enough)
Take a bubble bath
Go swimming
there are lots of other things you can do, you will just have to experiment with what makes you feel better!
2006-10-17 21:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To get over a love will take a long proccess depending on the person. Me well i fully or claimed i got over it in 3 days (becuz i knew something was up and it didn't phaze me as much as it did when i truly found out.) The first thing i did was to forget the relationship (not as it didn't exist, but as its not your main priority in life.) Then i try to constantly convince myself it wasn't worth crying over. Next, is trying to dispose all feelings. Lastly, look in a different direction and find someone new. If all of this seems impossible then your still in love with him, and you need to release those feelings into the trash. IF THAT DOESN'T WORKS..then he has truly made an impact on your life to love him so deeply. if you really want find out why the relationship went down the hill and >> see if you can snatch back the broken relationship. All i have to say is good luck to you and i hope for the best.
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Also don't let your first love destroy the oppurtunity for the next.
2006-10-17 22:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by drE-drE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be inclined to agree with Sue. I am 33, I had my 1st TRUE love at 17, he could call me today and I'm there for him. Sad thing is I'm married with children. So if it's real you will always feel it. However I believe it really depends on how old of a teen you are if you really know what love means.?.?.? You will always feel it, but you will be able to move on. Don't have the we will be back together dreams or anything like that, just try and move on.
2006-10-17 21:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by tatoomom69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case at least, Ive never gotten over my first love. Through the years, he has come in and out of my consciousness without ado... But time heals all wounds they say, and hopefully youll just be left with sweet memories to cherish.
2006-10-17 21:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by sexy_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got over mine because he screwed me over.
We met when we were 12...... when we were 14, we went our seperate ways... I was crazy over him still when I was 18. I just couldnt get him out of my head. So, I called him up... we hung out. He kissed me and made me feel really wanted... dropped me back off at home and said "Call you later!" ... well, apparently later meant a year and a half later... because thats when he called. By then, I was married. And its not like I didn't try to keep contact. I called him and called him once a day for a week straight. He kept letting the phone ring, didn't pick it up, and didn't call me back. So, that was a big "screw you" in my opinion. So... I got over him REAL fast after that.
2006-10-17 21:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never truly forget your first love. It will be uncomfortable to be around him with others for a while, but it will lessen with time, and hopefully you finding another to love as well. Just treasure the good times and try to move forward - as the old saying goes there are too many fish in the sea to just catch one.... Good luck!!
2006-10-17 21:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by akelaamy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im in this stage with you me and my bf just broke up last night and he was mainly my first true love and that we actually had a good thing but he made up a lie about our age difference and said that it was to much for him although his ex gf was in the background telling him what to say but i think im coping very well its just the first day so far and its ok my friends cheer me up and im getting over with it and moving on well trying to but i know from earlier experiences that you will eventually move on from all of this just dont worry about him anymore and try to find someone new if they dont find you first just go for your goals and when everything feels like its going to go bad go and talk to someone maybe one of your other best friends about it or someone you can actually trust and they should be there to rest on for some moral help but just dont worry sooner or later things will work out promise
2006-10-17 21:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by countrygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
change ur perspective
if u keep telling urself he was ur first true love, then ull spend the rest of ur life depressed
if u come to realize that he's not ur first true love because there are a million other eligible guys out there, then he'll be done and forgotten in a week
2006-10-17 21:46:09 · answer #10 · answered by Mr.Moo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋