So, there is this guy at school who I am very attracted to. Him and I have known eachother for almost ten years. I liked him in elementary school, didn't see him for three years, and then went to the same High school as him and am even more attractive to him. the problem is, I don't know if he likes me in that sort af way.
Him and I seem to have this weird mental bond, like we can just stare at each other and know what the other is saying.
Should I confront him with my feelings or just let are friendship stay the same?
How would I confront him?
2006-10-17 14:39:53 · 24 answers · asked by GaelicMel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the best way to kno if he likes you is if when one of you walks in to the room and you both start smiling at each other and you cant stop then u kno he like you, the best way to tell him is to just come out with it, its going to be hard at first but once you start talking it going to be real easy
2006-10-17 14:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sean 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you will never know unless you confront him on it. Maybe he wants to do the same thing but he is too chicken-guys are like that. At lest if you confront him you will know how he feels. Just do it in a way that maybe you two can keep the friendship. Kind of ask him to go to a movie and see what he says...
2006-10-17 14:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by tkpeverill 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Omygosh, you have nearly the same problem as me. :)
Anyway, I think you should find out more about him before doing anything. Ask your friends if he's in any of their classes, and ask for nosy bits of info. :) It sounds bad, but it does help in delving into his personality more, so that you know more about him. After that, try talking to him a few times, you know, in a friendly sort of way.
If the above is not needed for you two, I would just come straight out and say it. I mean...what's worse, knowing the truth or staying in a state of turmoil because you don't know the truth?
2006-10-17 14:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen alot of friendships ruined by revealing too much. Give it alot of time. The best gf/bf relationships grew out of a great friendship. Just wait and let it happen. It may or may not develop into a bf/gf thing and you would hate to loose a good friend if you spoke too soon.. Give it time.
2006-10-17 14:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeap ; you should ; because the truth is the best answer .
people should all know .
imagine if you were in that persons position .
would you rather have a smile from a lie ? ; or tears from the truth ?
come on . we all know the truth hurts . but no one sayed life was gonna be easy . feelings arent something to lie about . if you lie . than you need another lie to cover it up with ; and you know if you dont lie ; you have less truoble to go thru .
and feelings are what you feel and express inside of you .
dont lie okay ?
i know its hard .
and you know its gonna be harsh
but the grass isnt greener on the other side .
hope i helped . (:
2006-10-17 15:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by Apples! (: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best relationships I have had are when both people have been totally honest and upfront about the way they feel about the other person.
Game playing and guessing what other people feel makes it impossible sometimes, so it is often better to just say how you feel, and see if it works out. As you are already great friends, I'm sure he's not going to be offended if you're being honest! :)
2006-10-17 14:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by Tiger1980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you feel you share a mental bond sincerely, then why not pursue this feeling you have with him more directly? the easiest way is to ask him if he would like to hang out on the weekend and since he is a guy, im' sure he will! then you can have some time to just talk and you will get to feel whether there is something deeper to build on. if not, friendship can remain and nothing has been lost.
2006-10-17 14:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is only one way to know. If you sit back and think about it and torture yourself over it (trust me I know) you are not doing the right thing. The time is now, bite the bullet and if he doesnt feel the same about you, well make sure you dont kill the friendship either. So I would just ask him if he ever thought about taking your relationship to the next level.
2006-10-17 14:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i totally think that honesty is the key to any relationship that anybody is involved with. i mean even if you're not honest with yourself it can lead to unhappiness and leave you feeling depressed 24/7. TRUST ME! its hard to say what you feel but if you don't worse things could happen. just try simply things like feeling good about yourself. pick a pair of clothes out that you feel confident in and keep going from there. you'll feel better in no time
sincerely,
louisiana(my nick name of course)
2006-10-17 14:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by brattybell3000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have a mental bond, tell him in your head you think he's hot.
Let him chase you, guys like the chase. Don't be desperate. Guys are weird, you let them know you're interested, and they tend to lose interest.
2006-10-17 14:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by Chrissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋