there is this girl at school who i don't know and that i have never spoken to, but she hates me with every bone in her body. she gives me dirty looks, rolls her eyes at me, thinks she can tell me what to do and asks me why i'm laughing at somethin that was funny but not directed toward me. what can i do before i get in trouble for beatin the b*tch up? what if i get her to hit me first, will i still get in trouble if i'm just defending myself?
2006-10-17 14:33:04 · 37 answers · asked by Katy x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yeah i noticed that i put kill i want 2 change it but it wont let me
2006-10-17 14:42:05 · update #1
i didn't mean kill her i just meant hurt her physically
2006-10-17 14:52:08 · update #2
and i havn't been gossipping about her, i've never even heard of her before i noticed her negative behavior toward me
2006-10-17 14:53:07 · update #3
try to ignore her, nothing will bother her more and just be calmed, realize that she is ifnerior to you and that's why she acts like that... calm down and show her, everyone else but most importantly yourself that she can't really get to you
2006-10-17 14:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by darkwind_faery 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You sound like an angry bitter person. Change your attitude so that she can not hurt you anymore. She treats you bad because it works she gets your attention and she has power over you. The only way to stop this cycle of abuse is to show that she can not get through to you it does not hurt you. Then she will quit and find someone else to pick on. If you fight with her that is what she wants and then she if the attention and can be the victim.
It takes a strong grown up person to stay away from her and if you do see her and can not get away use kindness.
Have you ever heard of fighting fire with water? How about killing hate with love. These are the same. Think about it. What would you do if you were the agressor and the other person was kind and sweet and loving. Tell her she looks nice, tell her you think she is the best, tell her she is a nice person who you admire. I bet after a few times of this she will leave your alone. Be tough and don't give in and bust her chops. Just be better than her and stronger too.
2006-10-17 14:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a peer mediation program? You could try that. Otherwise I'd ask a teacher or counselor for some help and advice. Have you ever approached her calmly and asked her why she does these things? If you haven't, I can understand why, because she seems kind of unbalanced, but if you have, you at least can say you have.
Do you have some good friends? Keep them near you. She probably just likes to play with people to purge her negativity. Perhaps she will outgrow it, but maybe not. Tell the school you're upset enough to want to hit her, and that should get their attention.
2006-10-17 14:38:14 · answer #3 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have become a target. I suggest to seek advice from a counselor but take only facts with you. Keep you 'tud' out. Life and High School are unfair. But there are rules that we need to follow. Fighting is fighting. At some point you may stop defending and become the aggressor (in the heat of the battle). Just don't go to her level. Find something you have in common and work on it(that is if you really care). She may have been given some bad 411 on you.
2006-10-17 14:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd still get in trouble for inciting violence, even if you don't throw the first punch. Just keep in mind that she's all talk and until the day she does throw a punch your way OF HER OWN VOLITION and you are well within your rights of self-defense to immobilize her how you see fit, just count to ten and imagine her pissing off someone bigger and badder than you and really being sorry. It always happens sooner or later.
Its tough to not stoop to their level. It happened my freshman year of high school. Some girl named Lilly decided to hate me because the guy she liked, like me and not her. So I started telling everyone, except her, that if she ever grew the balls to come to me face to face I'd kick her ***. Not even two days after that, she comes up to me saying "OMG, I can't believe what people are saying. They're telling you that i'm saying all this stuff and its so not true. I almost cried when I heard it." First thing I thought was, "Wow, how pathetic," because I knew she was full of it. I realized that she was not worth getting suspended or getting a record for assault and battery.
2006-10-17 14:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by tiger_lilly33186 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh, I can't stand these kinds of heifers!!! Don't kill her, please! It ain't worth that. But if she hits you, you have to defend yourself. Tell your teachers that, if this should happen. Don't try and get her to start it because that never works. The word will get back that you made it happen. This girl ain't your sun or moon. You don't live off her love! You don't have to spend one minute of energy on her butt. If she says something to you set her straight, but do it in a way that shows you are not trying to start a fight. If she comes upon you like she's gonna hit you, then you have to take her out. Other than that don't give her a second thought. Some people just ain't gonna like you no matter what you do. You have to harden your feelings against people like her and don't let it get under your skin. You've got too many things to do than to spend thoughts on her! That's what I say.
2006-10-17 14:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by meillee44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore her act like you don't see her, don't acknowledge her presence, if she speaks to you pretend that your deaf and most of all don't let her get under your skin. She obviously has a self esteem problem and she must be jealous of you.
Getting physical never helped any situation, it might make you feel better just thinking about hitting her but don't you do it. Hitting her would only make matters worse.
If your forced to acknowledge her do it with kindness that will bother her more than anything else you can do. It might also change her attitude toward you.
2006-10-17 14:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, she is obviously JEALOUS of you! I went to my 20 yr. class reunion and a girl I sat across from on the bus every day who lived in my neighborhood and never spoke to me told me she was so jealous of me in high school. We laughed about it now but at the time it was painful. I was treated like the plague by her and her friends and now I know why! The best thing you can do is not cross paths with her. There are plenty of people who you can be friends with. Why would you even want to be friends with someone like the person you are describing? And life is MUCH TO SHORT for you to be worring about this shallow green monster. Don't get into a confrontation with her, you will only validate her stupid behavior and drag yourself DOWN to her level.
2006-10-17 15:35:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer might get you into some trouble, but here it goes! If it were me it would have ended with the first dirty look! I would go to school tomorrow and wait to see her next move, I would walk pass her all hard and **** and wait to see if she gives you a dirty look or something then I would go to her face with a bad *** attitude and ask the ***** what the **** is her ****** problem! And tell her if she has a ****** problem with you that you'll take it down right now!! She might be scared and walk away or she'll fight! Hope you kick her ***!!!
2006-10-17 14:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by fairyjin1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I know many adults who are the same way. First, in you mind, think Poor girl. And even when she confronts you, you can reply by saying: you poor thing. I'm sorry you are having a bad day. And don't forget to smile and bat your lashes
when you say it. When ever she gives you dirty looks or glares, just smile back. And when you are laughing at something and she says something, you can reply back and say: don't worry hon, I not laughing at you. Remember to smile. What ever you do, do not strike out at her. And yes, you would get in trouble for even defending yourself. I don't know your school's policy. Just act like you don't care what she says. Just grin and nod.
Good Luck,
O'hock
2006-10-17 14:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by orcahock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont really know what you shouyld do to get her to stop but just so you know yes you can get in trouble still even if it is in self defence. Usually not in as much trouble...but is it really worth it. And just a suggestion. In what ever you write on here dont use the word kill cause with all the violence in schools right now they will come after you if they find out who you are. PEACE
2006-10-17 14:38:53 · answer #11 · answered by Jewls 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋