ok. If you loved a guy so much that you would never want to leave him and your also pregnant with his child but he brakes your hart alittle bit at a time each day by putting you down and making you feel like ****. but you love him to much to leave him but yet you know you should- what would you do if you where me?
2006-10-17 14:28:43 · 13 answers · asked by dirtbikeridegirl2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i would give hime one more chance and if it dosent work out it's over child or not
2006-10-17 14:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? You misspelled so many words, it's like a child wrote this which is heartbreaking (babies having babies).
Girl, you don't love this guy...why would you love someone who would put you down and make you feel as if your heart were breaking? That's not what love is about...you've got to get some self confidence and self esteem and realize you are worth more than someone who would treat you that way...he's not worth your infatuation or love or spit (if he were on fire)...
Get away from him, but make sure (if you go through with the pregnancy) that he does his part to support the child...if he's treating you as ugly as you say, he doesn't sound like a good candidate to be a parent...
2006-10-17 21:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let him treat you like that...you don't deserve to be put down by anyone least of all the father of your child. Get some help with him and let him know how demeaning it is to you to be treated that way...and believe me, it will not get better after the baby comes, because that will be the start of one of the most difficult things a relationship has to conquer....kids! And if you stay with this man that treats you this way and raise your baby with him and he still treats you badly, all you're doing is teaching your child that it's ok for a daddy to speak to a mommy that way...making it seem NORMAL and it so IS NOT! Nip this behavior in the bud, your child will respect and admire a parent that stands up for themselves.
2006-10-17 21:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by shel_920 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered it yourself, when you said that you know you should leave him! Girl, I feel for you! If he's treating you this way now, he;s not gonna change and if you keep taking it it'll get worse! I believe that you should break up and take time for yourself and take care of that baby, its not good for you to get upset all the time. You and that baby comes first! If he loves you then he'll be willing to change, If it doesn't then he's putting himself first and you don't need him! Sometimes it takes one leaving, so that that person could see what they have lost. I wish you luck and I hope that everything works out for you.
2006-10-17 21:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by fairyjin1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps putting you down, he does not love you! You love him and do you treat him that way? You not only have to think about yourself, you have a baby to think about also. If he puts you down all the time, how will that child see you, when he/she hears Dad putting you down all the time. My husband used to pick no me about my cooking and then he noticed that our kids were doing it too-he put a stop to it. Kids at a certain age really look up to their fathers and try to be just like them especially boys. Just keep that in mind.
2006-10-17 21:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by tkpeverill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not even close to love! it is emotion.
People who love each other do not behave in this way.
If you continue on showing lack of respect for yourself you will eventually end up with no self esteem and an unhappy baby who did not ask to be put into this situation.
Take care!
2006-10-17 21:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy who truly loved you wouldn't feel the need to put you down. Find a guy who respects and loves you as much as you do him.
2006-10-17 21:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by Rex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hun you need to kick him to the curb and take his butt to court and get chid saport.Because you do not have to take some one putting you down like that and with you having a baby soon you do not need the stress like that its not good for you nor that baby.I am sorry you have to go throw something like that and I wish you the best!
2006-10-17 21:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight out that you love him dearly but he needs to do his part as your partner and father of the child. Tell him what you truly feels. Yes you love him, and as hurtful and tough as it may be, sometimes, if you love that someone so much. Just let him go.
I once told my bf that I come to terms that it's enough for me to just love him from afar. It doesn't mean when you love someone so much you need to be with him. And in order for someone to love me,I need to learn to love myself first. By doing so, I need to stop all this hurt and painful time that I'm going through. This made him realise that I can live without him and he hardly take things for granted now.
Some men tend to take women for granted, sometimes it's just because we let them. It's tough, but we need to learn to stand on our ground. Good luck...
2006-10-17 21:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by Aranel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there--- Done that!!!
and after 14 years of marriage, I left and divorced him!!!
Do not waste your time and love on a man who does not appricate you and your love. He doesn't see the beauty that you have nor does he appricate the love you give to him. Your self estem is low, and you deserve so much more!!!
bottem line---- DUMP HIM... NOW!!!!
2006-10-17 21:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by next.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny i hate to break it to you, but if he loved you he wouldnt treat you the way he does,
he wouldnt put you down if he loved you as much as you love him,
i guess you could try and live with it but you should go and find someone that is going to love you back
good luck
2006-10-18 00:06:56 · answer #11 · answered by Boots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋