I wish i could call her.But she cant use the phone anymore!!!Pleez answer to this question!!
2006-10-17 14:27:40 · 28 answers · asked by Manderz<3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Learn from her mistake.
If you are not mature enough to deal with getting on birth control, and demanding he use condoms, YOU ARE NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO RAISE A BABY.
2006-10-17 14:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well to be 14 and pregnant is hard enough, the fact that she cant use the phone is another hard knock. you should write her a letter and ensure her that she is still your friend. being a teen parent is hard on her and her parents cause at 14 she cant raise a child alone, so the burden is on her parents. give them a chance to cool off cause now they have to figure out how to care for their baby who is having a baby. when the smoke clears they will allow her some freedom, but not to the extent that she will be a regular teen again cause she will be someones mom. also you have to realize that she cant do all the fun things carefree teens can do cause she is a "mom". so while you are talking about video games she is talking about diapers and sleepless nights.
even though her problems are her own, if she is a good friend then you should try to maintain communications by mail or at school when she attends. that way although she has to grow up real fast she will still have a part of her childhood in her friends.
and by hanging out with her you will realize that it's no fun playing grown before its time. someone told me once that you should enjoy life as a child cause they go by so fast. and in life you will be a grown up much longer than you ever was a child.
hope this helps.
2006-10-17 14:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by dee-dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now would be the time when you have to figure out how good of a friend you are. As a friend you should be supportive but always be honest without slicing her into pieces. She has to know that there are consequences for everyone's actions and if she hears it from you she'll digest the message a little easier. Don't feel bad. too many people waste a lot of time feeling sorry, bad, etc. you can speak to her about solutions. whatever, you decide on always ask yourself, "How is this going to affect me 5 months from now?" Good luck.
2006-10-17 14:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by asiansensation 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't use the phone anymore?? Is this a punishment from her parents? BRILLIANT on their part... nothing like trying to shelter a girl who they obviously didn't pay enough attention to before she got pregnant!
I'd place a call to her mother and let her know that your friend is important to you and that you would like to be there for her during this stressful, yet exciting time.
It is unfortunate that she ended up being unresponsible, but now is time to face the music... if anything, her parents should try to enhance her maturity level some time in the next 9 months rather than punish her.
How silly is that... punishing someone's mom... that's what she is now... a mother and I wish her luck;-)
2006-10-17 14:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend got pregnant when she was 15 i was there for her every step of the way,her father wanted her to have a abortion,he was on her case all the time stressing her out till she lost the baby,that was the hardest thing i had to see her go through,but I was there for her,and we are still best friends till this day,it's been 19 years for us.Just be there for her when she needs you,right now she needs you,but her parents are mad and hurt and wondering where they went wrong but they will get over it and learn to except it.Good luck
2006-10-17 16:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mattshottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank God it isn't you first of all. When your friend finally gets out of maximum security confinement don't talk too much about it. She feels 1000 times as bad as you do. Let her know she has a good friend to talk to and help her along the next 18 years of her child's life.
2006-10-17 14:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, is she going to keep the baby, or get an abortion? If she's going to keep it, then she's going to need a lot of help, and you can offer to babysit or do things with her to get away. Write your friend an e-mail telling her that you'll be there for her.
2006-10-17 14:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Penelope L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do right now is go and see her. She'll need her friends and family right now, and she'll need you more if she can't talk to her family. Just be there for her, and help support her decisions, and give her a shoulder to cry on when she needs one.
2006-10-17 14:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by Amy D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is be her friend. Try writing a letter to her (snail mail). It might make her feel better and at least she knows that you care for her.
2006-10-17 14:32:19 · answer #9 · answered by kelliemag 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should give her a hand annd if you want to be friend with her you still can just learn fom her mistakes and try no to do the same but you can still be her friend if you wish too
2006-10-17 14:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by user 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋